I listen to a client about how hard it is for him to live with his wife, how tired he is of everything, how he wants a completely different life, happy and harmonious. And I just want to answer him with the well-known words: “I don’t scold my wife. I will never leave her. It was with me that she became bad. And I took her good..." "Yes!" he almost shouts. "She was completely different! We've been living together for 5 years, she doesn't know how and doesn't want to cook. She's not interested in anything except the Internet and clothes. Children we didn’t, somehow it didn’t work out. And now I think maybe it’s all for the better.... Do you know what she said before the wedding? “I love cooking, especially baking.” a man, I kept all my promises and still keep them. I earn money, provide for her, indulge all her whims. What do I get in return? An eternally dissatisfied face, walking around the house in a faded old T-shirt and the same shorts. she doesn’t want to. I go to work - she sleeps, when I come, she’s on the Internet. It’s some kind of complete degradation. She has a car parked outside her window, so she can go for a manicure and pedicure every two weeks. That’s all for me. it’s not very convenient in front of her parents and friends. During all the time, she did not express a desire to celebrate any family holiday, set the table, cook something with her own hands. I talked, explained, asked - well, at least do something. Well, say that you are interested, what you want, because you are almost 30. The answer is silence. I don’t want to force myself anymore with this non)relationship, non)love. She became unpleasant and uninteresting to me. We, in general, men, find ourselves, to a greater extent, cruelly deceived by our once white and fluffy brides.” This is one of the “cries of the soul.” Indeed, I thought. Girls dream of marrying a generous, wealthy, hard-working man, etc. Why don't they appreciate it when they receive it? Just take a deep breath and calm down. Why bother? It has long been clear that rarely does a man from the bay of floundering dare to break off a relationship in one fell swoop, unless he finds great and bright love on the side, especially official ones, and especially where they have lived together for a sufficient number of years. It is an illusion that everything is so simple and easy for men. This was invented by women who themselves went to ensure that he would eventually leave. In a relationship, literally everything depends only on the woman. Forever and ever, a man associates a woman with comfort and warmth. No one talks about becoming a cook or dishwasher, but it is unlikely that any man will leave a gentle, affectionate woman who creates coziness and comfort and at the same time finds time for herself, her interests, develops and improves where she is interested. What can a woman who sits at home in front of her computer offer her man? Sex? So, passionate sex subsides over the years and this is not enough for a serious union. A woman is not only a lover, but also a listener, an adviser, an assistant with whom you can laugh and share your feelings, emotions, and plans. Any man loves with his eyes. And here it turns out that the frog princess is exactly the opposite. She was well-groomed and beautiful - she turned into an ordinary, gray aunt who is an eyesore in a stretched out T-shirt and old shorts. The thinking of a far from wise woman: “And so it will do.” I'm the wife. Everything is stable. It’s not going anywhere.” This is one of the options for destroying relationships. Then, of course, the man is to blame, such a bastard. Didn't appreciate it, betrayed me, etc. This is not an isolated case. I've seen a lot of situations like this among people I know. Everything ends quite sadly for the girls, and if they do not understand in time that relationships, family is work, work on oneself, on relationships, then the same thing will happen to them in all subsequent relationships. Another option is completely opposite. Young people have been dating for two years. It's heading towards the wedding. Not a wife yet, but I have a lot of complaints. “You are a liar,” she tells her lover. You have no faith and never will.” And that's all just!