What to do with a lazy frog inside? I started writing this article about a year ago. My three-year study in psychology was ending and it seemed to me that my life must definitely change, I must change it... I researched my experience and what helped me, and now, having added new thoughts to the text, I want to share it with you. So, we strive change something in your life. A lot of effort has already been made, mixed with violence against oneself, many different steps have been taken and suddenly there is a stupor. In my experience, I felt it like falling into a kind of swamp, so familiar, but quite comfortable... and I remembered the frog that whipped butter from sour cream in L.N. Tolstoy’s fairy tale. It’s like I’m in such a sour cream, and I’m too lazy to hit with my paws... That’s right, laziness! And also fear... I had a metaphor: “Sour cream is from a fairy tale..., but the swamp is well known, the hummocks are nested, the nightingale sometimes flies in in the spring, and there seem to be enough midges for food. Yes, it’s certainly tempting to look at a beautiful, clean river, and they say it flows into some kind of sea... it’s blue and blue and you can’t see the other shore... I’d like to see the sunrise there, see big ships, or even go further... But where can I go? ... With my speed and jump range? I understand, for example, swans or, for example, geese, what a wingspan, flight altitude! And again they fly in a flock. What about me? Who will I lure with me from our swamp? If you want, they say, jump, since there are no other things to do, and we have a lot of worries, there are midges today, but not tomorrow... Eh, but it’s true... That’s how I jump to the geese, listen to their conversations and back to my mound, like She’s already disgusted, and it’s scary to move from her on a long journey... you never know... And I’ll catch midges, listen to the nightingale, it seems to be good, I’m already too lazy to move somewhere...” As it seemed to me then, laziness and fear of something new were preventing me and the unknown. But now, having returned to this text, I also discovered a huge underestimation of myself and my efforts. After all, it’s true, they are there, in the beauty far away - swans or, at worst, geese, and here we are frogs, who cares... There is also a fairy tale about the Frog Traveler, which also ended badly - again she returned to her swamp... And at that moment I was not at all ready to admit that I was a swan. What helped me at this stage? About laziness. Don't dismiss it as something unworthy of attention. After all, as we reason: “Why should we pay attention here, it’s a shame that changes don’t happen because of our own laziness, you know! If only attention in the form of a “magic kick”... It is very important to understand what lies behind laziness. Sometimes it can be simple fatigue and lack of resources. You're not lying on the couch, dreaming of a new life, I hope? When I turned to my laziness, I saw there fatigue, first of all, from living according to the strategy of violence against myself, the constant “should”, immersing myself in the framework and circumstances where I “should”. I owe it not only to my inner voice, but I am also bound by real obligations in life. Tired of “having to fit in.” In quotes, because this need is largely on an unconscious level. And therefore, when a new “need” arose, one that seemed so important for achieving my true and significant goals, I became lazy. And it didn’t suddenly happen, but accumulated. It is impossible to set off on a new journey with a heavy burden of past responsibilities. I want to go lightly and with pleasure, but here again “You must change your life!” Not just take a step forward, but change your whole life at once. How can you not fall into a stupor here? Well, it’s still scary... It’s such a dead end. What is called “we don’t want to do the old way, we don’t know how to do the new.” How to deal with all this? First of all, admit it. Recognize that you are a normal, living person and may get tired. Get tired of playing roles, constantly smiling, saying that “everything is fine”, not just talking, but also desperately pretending. Allow yourself to be lazy, because you can put off urgent matters for a while (even if your inner voice hisses “Yes!