When I think about the formation of the devaluation mechanism, I always remember how a small child learns to walk. At first, his attempts are clumsy, he quickly becomes frightened by his own steps and falls. But everyone around him rejoices immensely and supports the child in every possible way - this gives him the courage to try again and again until he gains the skills to walk steadily. If adults showed such an attitude in all areas of a child’s life, then depreciation would not have a chance to form. But in other aspects of life, parents often demonstrate a different attitude that shapes in a child there are mechanisms of devaluation. I’ll tell you about the main ones. “I am the last letter of the alphabet” is a clear message that you and your opinion do not matter. “Let others praise you, and I will criticize you so that you become better.” One of the most common misconceptions is that criticism promotes development. It has long been known that a person learns better with positive reinforcement and support. But we still try to use fear, instead of love. Because it seems to be a more effective assistant. And, however, in the short term - right now, thanks to criticism and fear, we get quick results. But the child does not learn to do something at the same time, he learns to be afraid, obey and obey the stronger. Over the long term, this does not help the child successfully learn new skills. Focus on mistakes. “Golden rule” - what we focus on, we feed our energy and increase in our life. When we focus on our mistake, miscalculation, which is insignificant relative to the whole matter, then we subjectively see only the mistake itself and practically ignore what done well. That is, in our perception we have made a huge failure, although objectively this is not at all the case. Lack of celebration of victories. Celebrating our victory gives us the opportunity to realize what we have done, to appropriate this achievement to ourselves in full. It is important to integrate all our past achievements into your successful experience becomes a convenient springboard for our next tasks. Alina KorolevaCandidate of Psychological Sciences