-The last Sunday of November is a very important day. Every year on this day, Mom gets mad at me because I forgot that it’s Mother’s Day - the message arrived just before midnight. - How do you feel? – I ask. “Nothing.” What was not celebrated in childhood does not seem to count. I want to talk about this at the session - the response signal rang late at night. Financial freedom has changed the family structure that has developed over several generations. Young people got the opportunity to experience an independent life, independent of their parents. The attitude and demands towards life in general, and towards parents in particular, have changed, which means the style of communication has also changed. At the same time, the perception of the situation by parents and growing children may be diametrically opposite. It would seem so simple to wish Happy Mother's Day. This is true if kindergarten and school remind you of the event. If a child is at an age when it is customary to live separately from their parents, the chance of receiving a reminder of Mother’s Day from the outside is small. It takes time and positive reinforcement to form a habit because the brain always seeks pleasure and avoids displeasure. In a simplified form, it will be like this: once you forgot about your mother’s holiday and received a reproach - next time the brain will force the unpleasant situation out of your consciousness, and you will again forget about the congratulations at hour X. That is why it is so difficult to meet expectations, to keep in mind a checklist of actions to meet the criteria of a “good” daughter/son. Each age period in a person’s life corresponds to certain psychological needs that a person strives to realize. The child grows up, he needs to decide on his boundaries not only in external space, but also inside the psyche. What can help parents maintain warm relationships and respect with their growing children and smooth out the severity of age-related conflicts? One proven way is family rituals. Regardless of how you feel about religion and superstitions, rituals are good for the psyche. Therefore, there are many daily rituals that we observe without even noticing it. There are personal rituals that have meaning for a specific person, and there are those that are intended to communicate with others. The ritual could be drinking tea in the evening, brushing your teeth, saying good night. They create a “psychological anchor” for pleasure, help communication, relieve tension, discharge negative emotions, and help get support. For example, going to the cinema with the whole family can become a ritual with the help of cola and popcorn. Or you can go further and discuss on the way home those moments that made the most impression. This is not about evaluating the film, but about your feelings and emotions. It’s good if you remember an incident from your childhood that you want to tell your child about. By their openness and example, parents develop in their child the habit of listening to their feelings and finding words for them. In this way, they build a foundation of trusting relationships, free the child’s head from fears and anxieties, and take steps along the path of growing up. The ritual also helps to understand your other half, it has been proven in practice. It is clear that even the most carefully performed ritual does not guarantee a positive result. How to understand what is happening? If the ritual resonates with the child, he will take the initiative himself.