How to raise a real man? Part 1⃣. To trace how views on raising boys have changed over time, let us turn to Ancient Greece. We all know that Spartan upbringing is one of the toughest in the history of mankind. A little boy, a preschooler, was taken from his mother and placed in conditions where he had to play sports, live independently, organize his life on his own, without a mother, and thus raised men. If we remember the peasant life of the 19th century in Russia, then we remember the words of Nekrasov: “Once in the cold winter I came out of the forest, there was a strong frost...do you hear my father, he is chopping? And I’ll take you away”/“It’s a big family, two people, all men are my father and me.” The work tells about a child who works in a cold forest with his father from an early age to feed his family. That is, from a young age, little men were previously brought up ✅readiness for self-sacrifice, ✅the desire to accomplish a feat, a courageous act. 👣If you look at today's reality, now the era of women's education reigns. Because if there is a Dad in the family, then where is he? That's right, at work. Who is raising the boy? Mother. What does Mom want? So that he is well-fed, clean, behaves well, is neat, diligent and conscientious. And in general, if only I could comb his hair a little, he would be such a COMFORTABLE little boy...👨🏽‍🦱If dad comes home from work in the evening, what does he see? Either a sleeping child, or tells him: “Go wash your hands/do your homework.” On Sundays, perhaps, dad spends time with his son, and then only under the strict guidance of mom, or, most likely, dad is tired and sleeping. Having matured, the child goes to kindergarten. Have you ever seen a male teacher in kindergarten? If you saw it, what would you think? Probably: “Some strange kindergarten.” This does not fit into our value system. The female teacher takes the child from the mother’s arms and tries to ensure that he is obedient, behaves calmly, eats well, and so on. And the little boy tries to please the teacher and tries to meet her requirements. Then where does the child go? To school. Who is the first teacher in elementary school? Also a woman. In general, if there are men at school, it is only in physical education, labor, and less often in life safety. The school is a powerful women's team. What do teachers want from boys? So that they 🔻sit quietly, 🔻raise their pens silently, 🔻don’t run, 🔻study well, 🔻do their homework carefully, 🔻be obedient, 🔻COMFORTABLE. This is the reality. This is the type of education when a boy is turned into an obedient, comfortable little man. And then he grows up, finishes school, and what does Mom do? Chooses a profession for him, a university. What kind of future men are we raising if my mother answers any question: “We went to school / we just came back from sick leave / oh, we went to karate.” This emotional unity of “WE” is good for up to a year. Then it ceases to be relevant. If a mother often uses the pronoun “we,” it means she is NOT separating herself from the child. Between them there was an umbilical cord, and so it remains: it seems that the fetus has physically separated from the mother, but psychologically - not yet. The mother does not allow him to manifest himself in any way as an independent person, as a man. And then, when he grows up, he demands: “Come on, be independent. Show your masculine qualities!” HOW TO RAISING A BOY❓✋🏻If you want your child in the future to understand who he is, what he wants, who he wants to become, to be able to say “NO” and define his boundaries, then ERASE THE WORD “WE” from your vocabulary.✋🏻Keep it in In your head you have an example of a real man, let it be a neighbor, grandfather, your father. And when the opportunity arises, say in front of your child: “How great it was that Grandfather Valya repaired our roof/installed a socket/nailed a nail!” Point out masculine behavior to the boy, otherwise the child will choose a superhero or blogger and imitate this ideal.✋🏻Observe the behavior of men with children. Watch on?