There is probably something very wrong in our education system, if you look at how adults react when something doesn’t go as they planned: completely and you have to watch how, when their plans collapse (when they fail to act as they planned), people fall into frustration, or become enraged, feel unhappy or attack others. It is unlikely that such reactions to the fact that “something went wrong” as planned can be called adequate. In transactional analysis, it is believed that the cause of such a neurotic reaction is the script prescription “Everything must go according to plan” sitting in the person’s unconscious, as well as the irrational idea that “If something does not go as planned, it is a Catastrophe!” If there are such oughts in the unconscious, such a person feels bad every time (he reacts with frustration or aggression) when something suddenly does not go as he planned. Such a famous psychologist as Albert Ellis says that the idea that everything that happens should go the way we would like, this is an infantile illusion that many people retain throughout their lives. In fact, in principle, it cannot be that everything works out to everyone’s satisfaction. The world does not exist for our pleasure and it is so complex in its endless variety of connections invisible to us that nothing will ever 100% correspond to our expectations and plans. “It’s always like this in life: we try, make plans, prepare for one thing.” , but fate presents us with something completely different.” (Pierre Beaumarchais, 18th century) “To believe that what is conceived will develop according to a predetermined plan is like rocking an adult in a baby’s cradle.” (Edmund Burke, 18th century) Neurotic beliefs that “since I have made a plan and am acting on it, now everything must go as planned,” as well as “if the plan I have made cannot be implemented, then it is a disaster,” lead to completely meaningless conflicts or useless self-flagellation, as well as the fact that people give up and do not finish what they start. For some reason, our education system does not explain to children at all while they are studying at school (and, perhaps, even during their studies in universities), that the iron law of this world that knows no exceptions is the rule: “Nothing ever goes exactly exactly as planned.” The fact that such things are not taught in Russian schools and gymnasiums (in German gymnasiums, by the way, teach), it is all the more surprising that for a long time one of the main principles of management says the following: In the process of implementing the plan, it is necessary to constantly check what is happening with the plan (control), and if some conditions of the plan cannot be fulfilled, then it is absolutely necessary to change these the conditions of the plan, adapting them to the realities of life in such a way that the set goal is maintained. The Russian proverb “not by washing, but by riding” is precisely about this - about the ability to change the plan - to change the course of action if something goes wrong, while maintaining the goal to which this plan leads, and in the end still achieve the goal. Of course, it is very important when drawing up the main plan (“Plan A”) to also draw up “Plan B”, in case “Plan A” is absolutely impossible to complete. However, it is much more important to understand that changing the plan, making changes to the plan is a normal phenomenon and an absolutely necessary element of the implementation of any plan, due to the fact that it is impossible to foresee everything. Planning is static. Life is dynamics. If the statics do not maintain the dynamics, then changes must be made to the statics. It is important to understand that it simply does not happen differently (so that you do not have to constantly make some adjustments to the plans made) in this life, since we are not Gods and cannot foresee anything future, not to foresee all the incredible complexity and intricacy of the interconnections of this life. To experience anger or frustration about the Law of Life that “nothing ever goes exactly as planned” -)