From the author: Dear colleagues, add points and points from yourself Practical advice - When he/she completely lacks a sense of humor. No one will admit this to you, so you have to find out on your own. The first sign is a very serious attitude towards “therapy”, towards the “process”, etc. Try to joke, if the third time he doesn’t even smile - that’s it, run! - When a psychologist/psychotherapist has some “unique” technique with which you can cure everyone, as proof of which there are many diplomas hanging in a prominent place. Run immediately, because such a technique DOES NOT EXIST! - When a psychologist slaps a diagnosis on you after the first meeting and offers a course of treatment, after which you will be “healed.” Get out without waiting for complications! - When a psychologist is always upbeat and positive: get straight to the point and let’s talk about something life-affirming, not noticing the tears streaming down your cheeks. This is what many coaches and partly enelpers (adepts of Neuro-Linguistic Programming and its “daughters”) usually suffer/enjoy. Maybe you don’t immediately run, but I would recommend looking towards the door. - When a psychologist, after listening to your complaints, says something like: “That’s okay, but mine is even worse!” And then the story follows. Maybe it’s worth clarifying who will pay whom? - When a psychologist tells you what you SHOULD do because it SHOULD make you feel better. It’s worth showing the middle finger (at least in your pocket). If the psychologist is not a log, he will feel it :). - When a psychologist is filled with suffering from your problems almost more than you yourself. Empathy - empathy, but without hickeys! This is very common for compassionate women after 45. The main thing, of course, is your instinct. Don't be fooled by words. If for some reason you don’t like it, that’s it! They will tell you that this is resistance and must be overcome. It is, of course, yes... But think about it: resistance helped you until the last moment, why should you push it now? PS I believe that every psychologist/psychotherapist reading this will feel the “joy of recognition.” If nothing like this has ever happened to you, colleagues, then you are PERFECTION! Send me your avatar, I will bow to you:).