Divorce is a sensitive topic for many. Once upon a time you were so happy, but then... Then everyday life came, there was no longer enough patience, respect, resources... People often call me with questions such as how to live after a divorce? Is there really this same life after divorce? After all, a person is often in captivity of illusions. It seems to him that his spouse will come to his senses, come back, and everything will be the same. But you can’t hear the treasured key in the door, you plunge into the abyss of tears and loneliness... And this is completely normal. Give yourself permission to cry and reboot. Try saying this statement out loud several times: “My husband/wife is not my property! Not my other half, but an independent free person. He/she chose this path and this is his decision. He/she will never will not come back to me. And as before, it will never happen again. An end has been put in our relationship!” You say this for your own good. Without reassuring yourself, but clearly imagining that some stage of life has ended and a new one is beginning. Who are you Now? Who do you imagine yourself to be now? Try to answer sincerely, honestly, what happened in your relationship? Unfortunately, many people cling to toxic relationships. So it is necessary to analyze what exactly the problem of your relationship is? Did your partner devalue you? Did your partner psychologically put pressure on you, instilling in you destructive thoughts (“nothing you won’t succeed”, “you’re nothing without me” What did they accuse you of? What were/are the complaints expressed? “Stop following me” (hyper control) “Why do you spend so much money/took out loans without consulting me?” ( financial “betrayal”) “You don’t know how to cook/you can’t drive a nail!”, “you do everything through your ass!” (Depreciation) “Who are you for me to consult with you?!” The list goes on. , however, I recommend that you write down all the offensive remarks of your partner on a separate piece of paper. What you heard. Perhaps you did not even react to these remarks or pretended that you were not offended. But someone was offended and a scandal began, which you regret now. .Write down your reactions. After that, write down what you want to change in your life. With this work, you can contact a psychologist and choose a competent course to restore your personality and uniqueness. Dear readers and colleagues! You can sign up for online consultations, courses, arrangements and supervision with me by calling 89272823878. Check out my services at this link! Sincerely, psychologist Nadezhda Vyacheslavovna Arkhangelskaya