Faith, believe, trust, verify, fidelity. It would seem that these are holy words, pure, earnest, immaculate. Sincere unconditional trust is born in childhood. The child believes what his parents believe. He doesn't know whether it's right or wrong, he just believes. This is how attitudes are born - stable stereotypes of perception, behavior, and thinking. We often observe how parental attitudes distort a person’s view of life and create a lot of problems for a person. For example, parents instill in a child the belief that he is sick. No, not on purpose, it just happened that way. A caring mother is constantly running around with thermometers, pills, and taking her child to doctors. The child begins to look for symptoms of the disease, at least something similar to them. Tries to portray the emotions of a sick person. And now he is already sure that the temperature has risen, his head and stomach hurt, his blood pressure is jumping. He does not receive additional education due to health reasons, he is exempt from physical education for life, and he does not have to go to tests. He misses school more and more often and does not follow the curriculum. Everything was as planned. The child is sick, the mother takes care. Neither teachers nor school psychologists can help increase motivation and academic performance. After all, the child firmly believes that he is sick. This is his alibi. Now it's real. After all, years of lack of physical activity, use of medications, plus irresponsibility for what is happening, lack of real friends have taken their toll. Faith in your child gives him freedom and wings. Unbelief is limiting. The thoughts “He can do it himself”, “The child should be helped to reveal his abilities”, “Let him choose his profession” are higher than “I can do it myself faster”, “He is not interested in anything”, “Parents know better where to go”. Entrusting a child, making him responsible for his choice, means giving him a chance to build his own life and believe in his own parental maturity. Children believe in what they see in their families. They will learn if their parents are sincerely interested in it; develop if there are creative adults nearby; tell the truth if it is customary in the family to admit their mistakes; and vice versa - beat others if they are beaten; look sloppy if no one forces them to wash their face in the evening; skip school if they are not woken up in the morning. It is almost impossible for a stranger to change such an attitude. Parental school is strong as steel. We continue to live by parental attitudes in adulthood. Everyone is convinced of his own: to preserve the family at all costs for the sake of the children; it must be so; do not trust, do not fear, do not ask; every dog ​​has his day; love happens once in a lifetime. We reaffirm our faith every time we encounter a situation that can reinforce it. We’ll also listen to songs, watch movies and that’s it - now nothing can get you out of your head. Somehow the attitudes I’ve listed set you up for inaction... Sit and wait, everything will resolve itself. In any business you need action, specific, directed. And we ourselves must take it on time. This is how we can change reality as we need and much faster. Attitudes should not put a person in a framework from which he cannot escape. And if he does get out, it will be through years of soul-searching, piles of books read and an eternal rake. Attitudes for a person should be his support, which inspire, and do not destroy.