Hello! When I was in the 4th grade, we were accepted into the pioneers (perhaps some of the readers too). The event was exciting. Dress uniform, ceremonial line, words of oath, high school students who tie a red tie around your neck, then a photo as a souvenir, congratulations, in short, a celebration. Almost like a wedding. Not everyone was accepted into the pioneers. But only the worthy ones. There were two boys in our class (of course, there were more boys, but I want to talk about these two), one of them broke his arm and argued with the second boy which of them could hold his finger in boiling water longer. Who do you think won? Of course, the one whose arm was broken). He was accepted into the pioneers. But they didn’t accept the other one, who quickly pulled his hand away (although I wouldn’t have accepted the one with a broken arm, why are there such fools in the pioneers?). They didn’t accept it, with the wording “I’m not ready to bear the proud title of “pioneer.” And he really wanted to go there, to the pioneers. Because everyone is already there, but he is not. Because it’s not very nice to not be ready when others are ready. And so, I think that maybe those who really want to get married are simply not ready? So to speak, they did not realize the full importance of this step. Didn't pass the test. Did not demonstrate consciousness (awareness). They do not have positive motivation. They have high expectations. They treat their comrade in a consumerist way, i.e. to my future husband. Or they consider themselves unworthy. They don't make any effort. They are afraid to give up their current status. The basic rule for those who can’t get married is: for whatever reasons you want to get married, that’s why you don’t get there. Do you want to get married and be loved? The reason is childish. Children want their parents to love them. And children don't get married. They live with their parents. Do you want to get married so that you love someone? Reason with deception. Do you have no one to love? You don't have to be married to love. You’re lying for a reason, but what will happen next? You need a partner so that you have someone to rely on. In other words, I’m crooked and weak, I can’t stand, I need a crutch. Who would be flattered by this? The reason hides everything: your attitude towards yourself, your idea of ​​your future partner, your expectations from the relationship, your way of selecting possible candidates, your past relationship experience, the relationship scenario you inherited from your parental family. Change the reason. You can do this here. Sincerely, Yulia Minakova.