We are used to noticing the bad. Many pleasant events and some kind of trouble or misunderstanding can happen during the day. But we will only remember the unpleasant moment, making a whole problem out of it. This will be the very first news that we share with a friend, with parents, with a partner. And we take good things for granted and ignore them. The same thing happens with children. We are used to noticing only bad behavior. Why does this happen? Because shortcomings and mistakes are immediately obvious. But we don’t seem to see the child’s good behavior and don’t talk about it at all. And it seems to the child that when he behaves well, his parents do not pay attention to him, and bad behavior immediately causes a reaction. Of course, the reaction is negative, but the main thing for the child is that they paid attention to him in at least this way - scolding. Therefore, we, parents, need to learn to praise the child. Yes, namely to study, because we don’t know how to do this. If we push the child down more often, notice his good behavior and good deeds, he will try to behave well. And bad behavior will appear less and less often. There is nothing easier to say these short words at the right moment: “Well done!”, “Good girl!”, “You did great!”, “What the right thing you did! Always do this,” etc. It’s easy. And from such words, a child’s self-esteem, confidence in himself and his strengths increases, he feels like a valuable person. When you need to praise a child: - when you want the child’s behavior to improve; - when a child does something well; - when the child has mastered new knowledge or skills. The child should be praised even for small achievements: sweeping the floor, helping wipe the dust, beautifully arranging toys in his room, etc. For us this is nothing, but a child grows wings from such praise. And he will try even harder. Be sure to note for the child what exactly his good behavior consisted of: “Masha, how smart you are, thank you for helping me wash the floor,” “Vanya, what a wonderful car you drew!”, “Sveta , you are very good at preparing vegetable salad”, “Nikita, you are so reserved and serious! Your brother teased you, but you didn’t get angry.” You can add some kind of reward to the praise. Some parents ask the following question: “Won’t the child get spoiled if you praise him so much?” First, imagine yourself when you are praised, what are you experiencing? Do you enjoy receiving praise? If you are embarrassed and do not accept praise, then you have low self-esteem and lack of self-confidence. But still, you like it when you are praised, right? If someone praised you, then enthusiasm appears, faith in yourself and your strengths, energy appears from somewhere, you feel happy. And children feel the same. Very much. An important point - do not talk about weaknesses and mistakes when praising a child. For example: “Finally, you cleaned up your room! Less than six months have passed,” “Finally, you’ve learned to put on your shoes correctly.” You should not focus on mistakes if the child has improved. Secondly, there is no need to praise for everything. Praise is used when it is necessary to encourage the child’s good and correct behavior, which is not typical for him. Or because the child has learned something. For example, he always asked: “Mom, help me put on socks,” and suddenly he put them on himself. Praise your children, and they will grow wings! Irina Bazan