Is it possible to stop controlling everything and relax? And what will happen next? What if the husband messes up again, the children don’t do their homework, and the subordinates will have to redo everything??? Girls, anything is possible! But in order for such a dream to come true, you will have to try: 1. Say goodbye to the phrase “If you want to do it well, do it yourself.” Stop being proud of it! Yes, yes, I’m talking to you, to those who are TIRED and dream of relaxing. I wrote more about this topic in this article. Find secondary benefits. What gives you/what bonus do you get by doing everything for others? Feeling GOOD/responsible, unlike everyone else who cannot be relied upon? Yes, tired, tired to death, but... what? Who are you serving? In front of your mother, your first teacher? For a long time no one has praised or hung him on the board of honor. But it’s still important for you to feel like... what? So. Be prepared to part with this bonus. Hear: “She is irresponsible, you cannot rely on her.” Attention! I am NOT advocating BECOMING irresponsible. In no case! I'm just saying that they can tell you this. Do you feel the difference between who you are and what they tell you? Or does this need to be explained?2. Observe. Other people do things differently, but that does NOT mean they are worse. Their way of being is unusual, but somehow they lived to their age? So do they have strategies that work? What can you learn from them? You can take something from EVERYONE. This will enrich your experience. I suggest that you often take the position of an observer and student and think: “Hmm... interesting, he doesn’t do it the way I would do it... I’ll watch... what will this lead to”? 3. Learn to influence. The opposite of control is NOT connivance, but INFLUENCE. We cannot control people, but we can influence the environment. Inspire. What does this mean? Your words should not be at odds with your deeds. Live your life in a way that inspires you. Do NOT talk about it, but live like this. Let your life become an example for others. Then you won't need to control them. They will come to you and ask you to teach them how to do it the same way you do it..