How to survive betrayal? Everything has already happened, you have been betrayed, how can you help yourself?1. Guilt. It is very important to monitor whether you feel guilty. Often, it is felt by those who have been betrayed, and not vice versa. Thoughts appear that you are to blame for what happened, that you should have behaved differently. Understand, there is no excuse for betrayal, everything could be discussed. If a person is capable of betrayal, he can do this to anyone and in any situation. So you don’t need to console yourself with the thought of random circumstances or your own guilt - if it hadn’t happened now, it would have happened later.2. Emotions are overflowing. Betrayal pulls the rug out from under your feet, because it happens completely unexpectedly. And it’s normal if you cry, don’t want anything, you feel bad and uncomfortable. You have lost a person, a friend, this is grief. Any grief must be lived through all stages of grief - denial, or isolation, anger, bargaining, depression, acceptance. If you suppress the entire range of experiences in yourself, you risk developing psychosomatics. You can allow yourself to be in this for a while - in tears, hysterics, complaints and anger. Select a specific period of time, for example; You can lie in bed for five days, not clean up, and tell your friends about your experience. But on the sixth day you pull yourself together and start a new life. Staying in this state for a long time is fraught with stuckness and apathy.3. Fear and new guidelines. If you have been betrayed, then you feel resentment, pain and, most likely, fear. The emotion of fear appears because you do not understand what to do now. Old connections, goals, plans are no longer working, your trust has been undermined, and who is your friend and who is your enemy is also not clear. Fear can put life on hold, because now you can’t understand anything at all. To get out of this state you need goals: make a list of goals, based on them, a list of tasks and steps. It wouldn’t hurt to have a separate block of “wants” - things that could please you. When you have goals and a concrete plan for achieving them, it won’t be so scary, you can see where to move. And “wants” will motivate you to achieve these goals.4. Schedule. Return to your usual way of life, this will also give you a feeling of stability. Create a daily routine that is convenient for you, do not forget that you have a hobby and at least a few hours a day for pleasure - the gym, meeting with friends or your favorite TV series. Reward yourself for work done.5. From fear to aggression. Despite the fact that you can stop the emotion of fear with the second point, the high intensity of the experience may persist and this is normal. The main thing is to direct everything in the right direction. Aggression is just right, try not just to be offended, but to get angry - your dignity has been hurt, you have been deceived, taken advantage of. Aggression will help you move forward and achieve your goals. Remember that your success is the best revenge. Be careful with this step! There should be no physical or verbal aggression towards the offender! The meaning of this point is the sublimation of one’s own experiences. It's just an "anesthesia" that can help you survive a crisis. Next, you should get rid of aggression, because the traitor will not change, and you will already be wasting your resource.6. Internal support. To survive everything that happens you need strong internal support. Take time for yourself, your development, your interests. The stronger you are from within, the easier it will be to get out of the situation. Hobbies, loved ones, favorite music will be able to support you.7. To trust or not? After betrayal, many swear never to trust anyone or consider everyone to be goats/sheep - these are cognitive distortions, since not all people are devoid of morals and honesty, there are plenty of worthy people, but extra caution will not hurt.8. Psychologist. Working with a specialist will speed up your rehabilitation process. In addition, it will reduce the level of pain, bring color back to life and help avoid this in the future..