From the author: the article was published on the website Family conflicts and quarrels often arise in family life. But, if between two people, i.e. If a married couple has an agreement on budget issues, raising children and in love relationships, then there is undoubtedly an opportunity to avoid quarrels in the family and build harmonious relationships. When building family relationships, do not forget that the interests of your own family should come first. Respect each other. Listen to each other. It is unacceptable when the husband quickly runs to his mother at the first call, or when the mother plays the “first violin” in the family relationships of a young family, controlling and manipulating her son. It is unlikely that such a marriage can be called happy. I do not call for ending relationships with the older generation, and caring for parents should be part of family life, but at the same time it should not interfere with building your own relationships. There is such a thing as “family boundaries.” It exists and protects against interference and pressure from the older generation, and helps to avoid quarrels. Teach your parents that you have a family and only in the family circle can you solve all important issues. To strengthen family relationships, you need to clarify the expectations of your spouses. As a rule, we want to be valued and respected for the work that we do at home and experience disappointment if we do not receive due attention and satisfaction. For example, a husband wants to see a businesswoman’s wife next to him, and not a cook who cooks all day long, which ultimately leads to grievances and conflicts in the family. By the way, according to sociological research, not all men put culinary abilities in the first place of their chosen ones. At the beginning of family life there is a quiet struggle for primacy in the family. People have come up with many sayings and aphorisms on this topic. There are a lot of quarrels and scandals. The most golden rule, which is confirmed by many observations: take responsibility in the area in which you are an expert. Learn to conduct a dialogue. Listen to each other. Never raise your voice. We are all different, we have our own point of view, life experience, outlook on life. We must not forget that in this world there are no right or wrong opinions, only by our attitude we determine their quality and we ourselves decide whether we should quarrel or not. The science of communication is very interesting and complex at the same time, but who said that it would be easy?