If you are still asking this question, then there are chances :) It is more important to formulate - do I want to save the marriage, and does my partner want the same? In general, when we get married We don’t think about the fact that every fourth person, if you look at the statistics, will fall apart. But odds and statistics do not play a determining role in relationships. If there is at least 1%, then you should do what depends on you... Often couples come to the reception already on the edge and desperate. At the same time, I want to say that the spouses’ forecasts are more pessimistic than their actual capabilities. Now about the criteria. The first bell is a conversation and an appeal to break up in quarrels. I suggest avoiding language such as extreme and destructive. After all, as long as you are focused on finding a solution that satisfies both, you are together and at the same time. I like the quote, I think from Richard Bach: The opposite of loneliness is not living together, but spiritual closeness. What is important is not the fact of marriage or divorce, but how you live together and to what are you going to? Ultimately, together should be better than apart. However, factors that indicate an imminent collapse: turning away from each other, when you start living your own lives and stop sorting things out, stop looking for reconciliation and a common solution. coldness and alienation, when the touch and presence of a partner becomes a burden, he turns into an object of venting negative emotions. Although even in this case, much is connected with internal processes and ideas, and some things can be corrected in individual work. Only more often are demands presented to the partner: “Either become what I want you to be, or goodbye!” when you realize that you have changed, revised important values, your worldview has changed, but your partner’s remains the same and you now do not fit in plans for life. Well, we don’t take a big layer when violence appears. In these cases, the question usually turns to the plane of how exactly to organize a divorce and protect yourself (in everyday, material and other senses). In conclusion, I note that often one of the partners “hangs” in uncertainty and waiting for changes from the second (here he is or If she changes, then I’ll live). At the same time, as it is, it is not accepted (rejected) and long torture ensues... It is important to shift the emphasis to what depends on you - adapt to the way it is and do what you can, in order to see what will happen . And then determine markers and time periods for yourself, so that nothing prevents you from acting in harmony (there is no dependence on the actions of your partner). This is not an easy task, and in this process the help of a psychologist will be very helpful. #workingwithsoulandconsciousnessMake an appointment by phone +7 (901) 770.85.22 or through the form on the website https://merkoon.ru