Parents do this not out of malice, they just want the child to behave calmly, without causing them, the parents, inconvenience; hence these constants: don’t make noise, don’t run, don’t rush, don’t cry, don’t laugh too loud. In general, no matter where you look, nothing is possible, nothing that is typical for a child! Is this fair? I immediately answer the indignant mothers and fathers: yes, yes, you are right, discipline and rules of behavior are important. But let's draw a line between normal manifestations of childhood and negativism. If you tell yourself “stop” and just watch your child play, you will see that he is not doing anything terrible or unacceptable - he is playing, laughing, screaming, running. Impulsive behavior rules! Our task is to prevent, for example, that he runs out onto the roadway during the game. We monitor this, we explain this. We don’t scare him that “you might get hit by a car,” we don’t forbid him to run, but we explain and talk to him. Well, if we constantly forbid the child to show his activity, his feelings, his opinions, then in the end we will come to a rather sad picture - From childhood, a little person will learn not to feel, not to express himself, not to take the initiative. During his growing up, he masters these skills quite well and goes straight to depression, neuroses, emotional spectrum disorders, psychosomatic problems, etc. But the worst thing is that sooner or later the child will really stop feeling the experience of any feelings, or even not will know what to call the feeling that is “covering” him at the moment. Because, as a result of his childhood experience, he learned that it is impossible to feel, it hurts. But he couldn’t change the situation then, because these endless “it’s too early for you”, “don’t whine under your feet”, “stop running and start listening to me” and a lot of other things, but from the same repertoire, hovered around him in a swarm. It is clear that by forbidding their child to show their activity, parents themselves are deeply traumatized people who do not know how to accept their children, so in the process of “upbringing” they simply share their neuroses with the younger generation. But this is no better for the child. Therefore, it is most effective for a parent to start working on himself, on his own parental competence, on his own awareness. Each parent, with appropriate support, is able to recognize their own problem, which becomes the reason for their suppression of the child. Look at children whose parents do not suppress them. How spontaneous, sincere, natural, and open these children are. We, as parents, can be much more wise if we are able to... learn from our children. Take care of yourself! Sabirov Salavat. My Telegram channel: #YourpersonalpsychologistIf you have any additional questions about the topic of the article or other problems in child-parent relationships, sign up for an individual or family consultation at: +79050620750