I often hear from clients that anger is an emotion that needs to be hidden and suppressed, that the expression of anger leads to scandals and spoils relationships. This position is understandable, because we often see people expressing anger in destructive ways: shouting, insulting, making trouble. We observe this behavior and learn that there is only such a thing as anger, and if so, then it is better to try not to be angry at all or not to show it. However, anger is as important and valid an emotion as joy, sadness, anxiety and others. It is necessary to realize and express it, and for this there are simple constructive ways that are not conflict-generating. These methods are familiar and obvious to everyone, however, in order to begin to actively use them, you need to train and develop a habit. Refusal or disagreement. “No” is a word that allows you to briefly and succinctly express anger. “No, I won’t do this,” “no, I don’t agree,” “no, I don’t like it,” and other ways to refuse or disagree. “No” is always a refusal to accept something that does not suit you, be it a thesis expressed by the interlocutor in a dispute, an incorrect request, unfair conditions, etc. A request or demand. And this is also an expression of anger. You don't like the way a person behaves with you - “don't do that, please” is a constructive way to tell him about it. Any request is essentially an attempt to correct a situation that does not suit you, and therefore helps to express anger. Sometimes a request doesn’t help, then you can use a demand, and that’s okay too. A demand differs from a request in the concentration of power that you assign to yourself at the moment. There is more of an element of cooperation in the request, as if you are explaining to the person what you don’t like; in a demand, you rather dictate the rules: how one can behave with you, and how one cannot. Statement. A message to your interlocutor about what has angered you. The I-message is always very important here, that is, a message only about your feelings: “I felt angry when you said/did this...”. If you do not use the I-message, then the conversation loses its constructiveness and turns into an exchange of accusations, which are conflict-generating and complicate communication. To express anger, these three methods are the main ones and learning them is very important. Anger is a valuable experience that signals us that something is going wrong, and awareness of our anger and its correct expression allows us to influence the situation, change it and not tolerate discomfort.