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“There is no sadder story in the world than the story of Romeo and Juliet, who really did not love each other.” Yes Yes. The relationship between Romeo and Juliet can hardly be called love. Let's figure it out just like that. I would like to present you with a new perspective on the famous tragedy. When you and I think about great love, usually the first thing that comes to mind is Shakespeare’s tragedy. He and she are in love with each other, forced to give up their lives for the sake of great love. Oh, how romantic! However, if you read the play more carefully, then there was NO love at all between Romeo and Juliet. And they did not die because of deep feelings. So, remember how long the lovers knew each other? Not months, not weeks, but ONE day! Our young heroes communicated with each other nothing at all. Just a few minutes. They knew absolutely nothing about each other. Neither about goals, nor about values, nor about habits, nor about each other’s skills. Nothing at all! They stupidly exchanged beautiful vows of eternal love, sang beautifully, loudly and colorfully to each other, swore allegiance and voila! Lyubov.You, of course, can now object to me and talk for a long time about how this is the 16th century, that morals were different, that in the past marriages were concluded earlier and faster, blah blah blah...BUT! Here I will tell you: Marriage is not love yet! Dialogues about eternal love, vows, promises are not love! Great sex is not love! Tears, suffering, tragedy, hysterics, expectations are not love! Love requires complete trust in each other and deep intimacy, and this takes time. If you look at the heroes from the point of view of age, then we will see that Juliet is 13, and Romeo, according to one version, 16. They are teenagers. And as you all know, this is the age of mood swings, youthful maximalism, hormonal surges. The heroes believe that there is true love between them, any obstacles are the end of the world. And yet, I don’t remember that Shakespeare’s heroes had their personalities described (clearly defined goals, meanings, values, that is, “I” or self-awareness). So what is this, if not love? If we consider the characters in the play as real people, then we can say that they simply encountered transference. In the conceptual apparatus of psychology, this is when a person comes up with an IDEAL image of a partner and a relationship with him in his head, and then “puts it on” as a real person. such transference is often called falling in love - you don’t really know each other yet, but from an excess of feelings you are already ready to move mountains. Such things…