Summer has flown by again, and now it's time for school again. Some children are waiting for September 1st with joy, some with anxiety, and for others it’s just more stress, fear, panic and despair. How can you help your child survive at school? What needs to be taught and how to support your child so that studying is a joy and not a burden? How to teach a child to overcome typical student complexes? After all, students spend most of their lives at school. School is part of their life. It is here that they learn to study, win and suffer defeat, are happy and sad, fall in love for the first time, and also experience conflicting feelings. Unfortunately, memories of school years do not evoke warm feelings for everyone. And what feelings and emotions do your memories of school life evoke? Dear adults? Yes, the school is a separate state that exists according to its own laws. These laws are created both by the education system and by the student body. Not always and not everyone manages to adapt to them. Life always teaches us something. In addition to general education subjects, at school children also learn the rules of life. And as we all already know, the strongest usually survive and win. But our children should also know that strength is a relative concept: age, health, abilities, character, external data, opportunities, circumstances play a role here... Therefore Some children live successfully and joyfully at school, while others constantly struggle for survival, and they have to do this alone. This is how students prepare for adult life. If a person is comfortable at school (classmates are friends with him, he willingly goes there every morning), then we can say that he lives at school. Such a person will have only pleasant memories of his school years. What if the child unlucky and every time he goes to school it’s like hard labor? Dear parents, let's think about what could stress or irritate him so much that he is afraid? Uninteresting lessons? Lack of friends and support? Conflicts and misunderstandings among teachers? Or maybe the problem is not in the school itself? Maybe there is no need to despair, but it is better to look for solutions to the child’s problems - rejection of school, classmates and teachers? How to survive at school? It is unlikely that there will be a definite answer to this question or an exhaustive list of recommendations, but you will receive the necessary information on how to help your child find a common language with classmates and teachers, join the class team without any problems, get rid of inhibitions and learn to learn. In fact, the recipe good study and well-being of a child at school is simple, but it will require the direct participation of parents in this - it all starts with the family. What does it take for a child to become motivated? Cultivate interest and explain the meaning of learning: children need to feel pleasure from what they do and understand why they are doing it. Develop in children the ability to set goals and achieve them, that is, to plan, concentrate, control their actions. Teach them to believe in themselves, to understand that success depends on themselves. Cultivate in the character of perseverance in overcoming difficulties, the determination to complete what is started. Closely monitor your children’s studies, but do not insist on high results - this is such a difficult task that parents face. Expecting great success from students can dampen their desire to learn. It is important that your child understands: knowledge changes him, gives him confidence, and it becomes more interesting to communicate with him. Modern schoolchildren despair too quickly. They give in to the slightest obstacles, refusing to make efforts if the result is not guaranteed. This is largely because children do not trust themselves and are acutely aware of their incompetence. Let the child be responsible for how he learns. Allow yourself to act independently. Competence is born only in activity. Help him understand his own feelings and desires, emphasize his character strengths. And don'ttragedies of mistakes and failures... It is useful for us to remember that school scores are an assessment of the child’s current knowledge, but not of him as an individual. One of the biggest problems of a schoolchild is the lack of mutual understanding with teachers and classmates. Schoolchildren often complain about this that teachers do not know or understand them, are not interested in their inner world and experiences, and do not take into account their age interests. According to teachers, difficulties in communication between teachers and students arise, in particular, due to: laziness of students, inattention of students in lessons, complexity of certain sections of the curriculum, failure to complete homework, students showing disrespect for the teacher, insufficient help from parents. Such, in brief, are the mutual claims of students and teachers towards each other. How can you avoid conflicts with the teacher? Explain to your children that at school, each of them - students and teachers - performs their social role according to established rules, which provide for certain rights and responsibilities - both children and teachers. The child plays the role of a student. who is obliged to study and fulfill the teacher’s requirements, but at the same time has certain rights. The teacher is obliged to transfer knowledge to students, monitor the quality of their assimilation, and maintain discipline in the class. A person is not a machine that performs work only formally. Especially if the work - as in the case of the relationship between a teacher and a student - involves diverse communication, and always emotional. Therefore, each teacher, when teaching your child, passes on to him a piece of his creativity, inspiration, interest, mood, energy that he spent preparing for the lesson. Agree: this alone deserves respect from students and parents. Children at school discover a world of communication with their peers. Popularity among their peers is an important determinant of how well a child does at school and how happy he is there. As a rule, children who have few or no friends hate school. But children who are popular endear themselves not only to their peers, but also to teachers and other adults. In general, such children receive more positive attention in life from all sides, which means they grow up self-confident and purposeful, which in turn, has a positive effect on school performance. Although programs are now constantly being carried out to develop tolerance among schoolchildren, there will probably always be children who are teased, offended or humiliated for the most insignificant reasons. But there are ways to protect yourself from social rejection and prevent it. Introduce your children to the seven secrets of social success: 1. Social success is achieved by those with whom it is fun and funny. After all, humor is the most reliable way to make and keep friends. 2. People are valued for the fact that they are ready to help, show sensitivity and care for others, and know how to act in a team. 3. Popular is the one who knows how to manage their negative and positive emotions, taking into account characteristics of those around you. Develop emotional intelligence in your children. 4. Social success is achieved by those who know how to resolve conflicts with others, creating win-win situations. The ability to compromise. Compromise does not mean victory or defeat; it presupposes an alternative solution that will allow those arguing or even those who are quarreling will agree on something. The essence of compromise is to make a choice that will suit everyone, even if it turns out to be not the decision that the disputants originally wanted. That is, to be able to negotiate. 5. Popular are those who know how to quickly join a new group of peers. The secret for a child to be accepted into a new group is to show his activity and to take the initiative himself and join as soon as possible company. Develop a friendly demeanor: straight posture; open posture when arms or legs are not crossed; palms in sight - as a universal sign of friendly intentions; smile and pleasant expression.