How do we choose a job, what do we want? To be paid properly. There was no shame in talking about her. So that it’s not far to go, or it’s better to go at all. To be liked. And at the very last moment we can ask ourselves the main question - is she even ours? Is she right for us? Julia is crying. She is torn by feelings. The first is resentment: five years were spent at the institute where Yulia studied geography, and now she realized that she hates geography. The second is confusion: Yulia teaches a hated subject at school, but she doesn’t feel so bad about it, because the kids are great, it’s great to communicate with them, and even geography doesn’t seem so disgusting when they start talking about mountains and rivers. Third, envy: among Yulina’s friends there are people who, as she says, “can draw, or write, or sew for twelve hours straight. Their personal lives are in complete ruin; they also rarely see their friends. I wouldn’t like to live like that - but I would like to be so dragged away from work!” Fourth – bitterness: Yulia is also ready to start looking for her favorite job, but as soon as she thinks about how much time she will have to spend learning new things, all enthusiasm disappears instantly: “Well, I want, for example, to become a journalist. Five years of study. Five years again! Julia holds on to four sad feelings tightly, firmly, like a stable chair. We’ll have to show her that this stability prevents her from changing. It turns out that Yulia needs her favorite thing in order to understand who she is. So that she can answer the question: “Who are you?”, to herself or to someone else. It’s very difficult for me to resist quoting Kharms: “Artist. – I am an artist. Writer. - And in my opinion, you are a g...o! The artist immediately turned white as a sheet, and like a reed, staggered, and unexpectedly died. They take him out.” The artist was devalued, compared to an unpleasant thing - and he no longer had anything to live for, because he perceived himself only as an artist. And if he is not valued in this capacity, then there is no meaning in life. We all really love to perceive ourselves through our activities. There is such an exercise - you need to take an unprepared person and ask him the question: “Who are you?” several times in a row, warning him that the answers must be given different each time. At the sixth or seventh answer the person will get angry, at the ninth or tenth there will be something like enlightenment. But the first or second most often will be: “Biologist”, “Engineer”, “Cook”, “Unemployed” (women may first say “Mom” or “Wife”, but then they will still name their profession). But the definitions “Comedian”, “Cat Entertainer”, “Lover of Alexandre Dumas”, “She who is afraid of moths” will appear later. But you can choose another method. First, understand what you love, what makes you happy and happy, what upsets and enrages you, where you will compromise and where you will not compromise, what people you enjoy being around, and which people you would not go anywhere with didn't sit down. This countdown brings us back to ourselves, and in the expressions “work for the soul”, “favorite thing”, “dream job”, the soul, love and dream become the main ones, and work becomes a derivative of them - and this is correct. Various people have calculated how long does the average person spend at work? Some say a third of your life, others say about ten years. In any case, this is enough time not to waste it on something alien, chosen because someone else likes it. And even though Yulin’s cousin, an animator, sits on his tablet for days and answers “mmm” to all questions that have nothing to do with animation, Yulina herself doesn’t really like to draw. And even though her friend likes designing dresses so much that she didn’t have enough time for the young man, and they broke up, Yulia is still not very ready to sacrifice meetings with loved ones for the sake of work. Gradually, the word “work” disappears from our conversation altogether. Now we go through big and small joys, and then - various things that cause dissatisfaction and disgust. Julia decides what she wants to see in her life and what she doesn’t want. And he says.