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I’ll tell you about the stages of grief that people who have lost a loved one go through (departure, divorce, separation). I gave this answer to Yandex Q as an expert, I’m sharing it with you. I. Shock This is the first reaction to what is happening. Lasts from several minutes to several hours. We are shocked when we learn about what happened.II. Denial The psyche is so structured that it is not able to immediately accept loss. She seems to deny reality and does not agree to accept what happened. “No, this cannot be, this is not true! This is some kind of mistake. This could not happen!” - this is something we think at the moment of denial. The denial stage can last from several hours to several days.III. Anger We get angry, look for those to blame, rush around, as if trying to change something. You definitely need to live through this stage and allow yourself to get angry. But do not harm others.IV. Bargaining At the stage of bargaining, the psyche seems to be bargaining with reality, creating for itself the illusion that the person has not died/left. An attempt to bring back a departed person (if this is a separation) or to create the illusion that he is with us (if he has died). Thus, the tradition of remembering a person immediately after the funeral and on days 9 and 40 is nothing more than helping the psyche to be in bargaining. At a funeral dinner, the deceased is given a glass, food, a spoon, and a photograph. This ritual creates the illusion that the person is with us, as if he is alive. This is bargaining. At this stage, people often remember the deceased, talk about him, and look at photographs. This is normal at the bargaining stage, as the psyche tries to cope with grief.V. Depression / Sadness At this stage, there is an increasing awareness of the loss, and as a reaction to this awareness - sadness, tears. It is absolutely normal to mourn someone who has passed away. Unfortunately, this stage is the most unpleasant and lasts for several months. People often try to avoid it, to distract themselves. It is possible and even necessary to distract yourself, but without running away from your life. During this period, it would be good to work with a psychologist, where your feelings will be accepted and you will receive support. If the stage of depression is prolonged and has a total character, with apathy, suicidal thoughts, then it is better to consult a psychiatrist; in some cases, drug therapy may be prescribed. VI. Acceptance The feeling of sadness, oddly enough, helps a person come to accept the situation of losing a loved one. It is thanks to sadness and mourning that the psyche comes to an agreement - the person no longer exists. When acceptance comes, the sadness subsides, leaving a feeling of slight sadness at the memory. At the same time, there may also be emotional waves, outbursts on the anniversary of death and on some key dates, for example, on the birthday of the deceased, the first new year without him, and the like. However, the pain gradually subsides.VII. Existential stage Few people talk about this, but it is after accepting a loss that a person’s attitude towards himself and the world changes. There is a revaluation of values. A person seems to ask the question: “Who am I, what am I like now after this life experience, after this loss?” At this stage, a new attitude towards oneself, a new perception of oneself, one’s values ​​and meanings can be formed.VIII. Structuring a new life and new experienceAfter a person has accepted what happened and realized himself in a new reality, there is a search for new forms of realizing life. Finding an answer to the question "How?" - “How will I live now, what should I do, what do I want?” A person gradually joins a new life, gains new life and emotional experiences, and acquires new meanings. It is important to live through all stages. They are not always clearly defined in sequence; they can “dangle” back and forth: bargaining - depression - denial - aggression. This is fine. It is important not to get stuck. If after a year you have not yet come to acceptance, this is an alarming signal and a reason to contact a psychologist (if you have not done so before). A psychologist helps you move from stage to stage without getting stuck. Don't expect a psychologist to be a painkiller. The task of a psychologist here is not to numb the pain, but to help you live in order to live on. If you are now