From the author: Today about the personality structure according to E. Bern from the point of view of an Adult, or rather the answer to a question that interests many of my Clients. How to develop and strengthen the Adult principle? Conflict and free personality structure. In principle, the ego state of an Adult develops with difficulty or is almost impossible to develop when it is noisy, crushed by the conflict between the Critical Parent and the Free Child in the minus. The figure above shows 2 structures personality. On the left is a conflict structure of the personality, in which the Adult is noisy with the restrictive attitudes of the Parent on the one hand. And with the negative emotions of the Child, who, defending himself from criticism, participates in the conflict, driven by the Drivers, on the other. If you have such a personality structure, then the development of the Adult is normal at this stage it is impossible. What to do in this situation? First you need to free the personality from the conflict between the Parent and the Child. And as soon as the conflict is removed, the Adult will gain strength and actualize the state of self-development - this will now be enough energy that was previously spent on ensuring the conflict .The figure on the right shows the personality structure of a person free from conflicts. As we can see, the Adult forms a single team with the Parent and the Child, free from the excessive prejudices of the Parent, with controlled emotions and adequate desires of the Child. And in this state you learn very easily, master new things, adapt to environmental changes. That is, you easily develop the Adult part of your personality. The Adult ego state is noisy with the Parent if you have many limiting rules, guidelines and principles for all occasions. If everyone owes you and there are a lot of internal “no’s.” If you criticize to the fullest outside and inside. Critic, if you are ironic and sarcastic. Ego-state Adult is noisy Child, if you experience desires that either seem unattainable to you, or are imposed on you from the outside. If you are “carried”, if you often fall in love and suffer from unrequited love, languish from boredom, or are thrown in different directions along the emotional scale. Ego-state Adult is noisy with the conflict between Parent and Child, if you live as if on a battlefield, you are constantly you are in conflict with someone, irritated or depressed. If you are easily offended or enraged. Original article: Personality structure. RVD model of ego states. Adult. Write in the comments what is your personality structure today?+ My Adult is blinkered by the Parent’s attitudes+ My Adult is noisy with the unfulfilled desires of the Child+ My Adult is de-energized by the conflict between Parent and Child+ My Adult is free from conflicts