At one of the seminars: Can you say a few words about yourself? I am a woman. “I am a woman” and “I am feminine” or “I am a man” and “I am masculine.” Do you feel the difference? You can be a woman (physically), but not feel feminine. For such a woman, the very phrase “to be feminine” is incomprehensible, but it is clear what it means to “be courageous”, to act like a man. If I have doubts about my own femininity (my biological sex does not agree with what I feel inside myself) there is an identity crisis. I begin to question the first statement “I am a woman.” What next? Option 1. Introject “I am not a woman.” A belief with which we agree. If I take this for granted, then the logical next step would be depression, loss of direction, fatigue from life, as markers of abandoning a part of myself, my basic needs. And, of course, the introject begins to manifest itself in the body in a wide variety of ways: irregular cycle, sexual dissatisfaction... etc. Option 2. Search for this very identity. We often start looking for ourselves in the most inappropriate places, for example, in determining sexual orientation. Sounds a little difficult? Strangely enough, the majority does not share the issues of gender and orientation, and the result is some kind of attempt to define (identify) oneself through another person and/or public “resonance”: “I like women, I am straight, therefore I am a man.” (you can continue the combinations using analogues). Agree, it’s a shaky design. Why shaky? Because it is based on social expectations (read limiting beliefs) and removes us even further from understanding who we really are. Understanding what it means to be a woman, to be feminine.