Hello, dear readers! Very often in our lives we have to experience separation and separation from people close to us: relatives, lovers, friends. This happens for a more or less long period (business trips, studying in another city, etc.). However, some people tolerate separation quite easily, while others find it very painful. Why is this happening? The answer to this question lies in one word - DEPENDENCE. Dependence on another person is associated with the needs that this other can give to the dependent (for example, the need for safety, protection, love, etc.). Therefore, often in a situation of separation we may experience self-doubt and anxiety, since we are deprived of a source (a loved one) with whom we feel safe. In this regard, you can write a lot of recommendations on how to survive separation from your loved one. But I decided to go a different way. Today I want to offer you a technique described by Steve and Connirae Andreas. It's called "Reconnecting with Yourself." This technique consists of 9 simple steps that you can follow on your own. Find a calm, secluded place where you can immerse yourself for 15-20 minutes to carry out this procedure.1. Identify the other person. Imagine someone on whom you think you are dependent or with whom all your feelings are overwhelmed. Most people imagine a relative or lover. Regardless of the extent of your addiction, this process will benefit you.2. Feel that you are connected to this person. Imagine that this person is standing next to you. If you don't see the image, just “feel” that it is happening. Walk around this person. Pay attention to how it looks. Touch him to feel what he is like, analyze what you feel when you are next to him. Pay special attention to the feeling of complete connection with this person. Now notice how you feel connected to him. Maybe you have a feeling that you are physically connected to him? Or maybe you are connected using threads or something else? Pay attention to where the connection occurs between you and the other person (for example, in the stomach or chest). Fully feel this connection, analyze what it looks like and how you feel.3. Temporary independence. Now try to break this connection at least for a moment. How do you feel about this? Most people feel very uncomfortable about this. This means that this connection plays a very important role in their lives. At this stage, you should not really break this connection, since you have not yet found a serious replacement for it.4. Find a positive goal. Ask yourself: “What do I really want from this person that will bring me satisfaction?” Then ask: “How can this benefit me?” Keep asking yourself this question until you get to the bottom of it. These could be confidence, security, love or self-esteem.5. Develop your evolving “I”. Now turn to the right and create a complete three-dimensional image of yourself, having surpassed your existing level in terms of resource possession. This is the same you, but one who has overtaken you in development. He has already solved the problems you are currently facing. He loves and appreciates you, he strives to educate and protect you. It can give you what we found out in step 4 that you really want. Pay attention to how he moves, what his facial expression is, how his voice sounds. You can touch it to feel what it is like, this more resourceful double of yours. If you can't see yourself, try to feel it.6. Transform your connection with another person into a connection with your own Self. Contact the person you are connected with again. See and feel the existing between you.