Several times I have already encountered similar situations from different angles: a young man and a girl are a couple. Everything is fine with the relationship, but everyone understands that they have some tangible problems of their own, and that these issues cannot be resolved on their own. They discuss this many times. Everyone knows that with these questions they go to a psychologist. That working with a psychologist helps resolve these issues. BUT! Everyone is afraid. And then they decide that they will go to a psychologist together: “we will go after the session” “we will sign up for a vacation” “when she/he gets well” “when the money appears” “when we return from vacation” Next, someone decides write to a psychologist: “We would like to be on the same day, but at different times.” “I would be fine online, but it’s easier for him in person.” It turns out to be some kind of “swan, crayfish and pike.” The resistance of one person who decides to undergo therapy doubles and even triples. In addition, there is also the pressure of responsibility for another. And if something doesn’t suit him, most likely it doesn’t suit both of them. Since we went together, it means there will be a temptation to discuss what is happening with each other and exchange impressions. But difficulties will soon appear, and in therapy, of course, they will arise very soon. The psyche will begin to strive to maintain its balance when, in order to change the situation, it will be necessary to overcome itself. So, one begins to rock this boat of joint “readiness.” And then, either both will have to quit therapy in order to remain a couple. Either one will show greater maturity and continue to work on himself, despite the decision of the other. Or both will find strength and intelligence in themselves stay and work. The third option is the least likely. Initially, “it’s not so scary for us to decide together” suggests that there is not enough adulthood for two. One, the one who started this process, who first writes/calls the psychologist, is more mature. The other one is hanging by a trailer, he is being transported or rescued, but his motivation is much lower. But the motivation of the first is not enough to move independently. Recommendation for such couples: to separate and decide on therapy independently of each other. If your goal is to work on your problems, start working with them yourself, without shifting some of the responsibility for solving your problems to your partner. To make an appointment, write to messenger 89065608149, telegram @MariaVlPonomareva or website messages, join https://vk.com/proforientaziaonline