When a parent lives in guilt or grief. Or went through some kind of trauma, the feelings of which were so unbearable. That mom or dad had to freeze everything inside themselves. Stop feeling not only feelings, but also your body, your desires and needs. Parents often live on autopilot. Have you noticed? This is exactly how the healing process is slowed down. And what the parents could not do is how the inheritance is passed on to the children. This is how conflicts, claims, psychological incest, and repeated violence arise. The mental pain inside the parent has not gone away. She went into the Shadow and gained a colossal influence on the psyche. It is easier for a parent to reject their child. Humiliate, break, despise, mock, devalue, beat. How to look at his defenselessness and dependence on himself. What a parent himself was like many years ago in relation to his mother and father. Many of us went through violence and cruelty from our parents. And they tried to find the answer “for what?” When I accepted that I would never get an answer. Why did so much parental rage fall on me? The whole situation of pain in which they lived for generations and which disfigured my parents was revealed to me. The pain that a child goes through can forever be shared with his potential and talent. It’s easier to slip into alcoholism and drug addiction. Sink to the bottom rather than openly look at the mental pain and admit the experience of perfect parental violence. But when the desire to live not in vain and not meaninglessly turns out to be stronger than internal pain. The passage to inner potential and talent opens, a person becomes capable of self-realization. Parental violence can forever close the door to something better and meaningful. A person's personality is easy to break. But it can also become the key to a new personality, to internal reserves of the psyche, to hidden abilities that will lead a person further, into something new and great. To your business, to new relationships, to financial growth, to a new quality of life. What was not available to his parents. But it was revealed to him. For he agreed with the family and clan through which he came into the world. And with the experience of sacrifice that I had to live. One day, Veronica, a constellation teacher, told me: “Sometimes in order to find freedom, you need to go through hell.” And hell (pain) can always be left behind you. If you want it. The author's programs contain practical field techniques that help you share with parental pain and begin to move towards inner strength. We cannot undo the violence in our past. But we can change our reaction to it. Look at yourself, small and defenseless, with respect and calm. And tell your inner child: “Now you have a protector. And this is me.” Healing relationships with mom https://filinata.com/mama Healing relationships with dad https://filinata.com/otnocheniacpapoi