From the author: “If there is a book that could save the world, then this book is in front of you.” John Holt wrote about the work of J. Ledloff. If you read it yourself, you will learn a lot more useful things. Based on the book by J. Ledloff. Jean Ledloff spent two years in the jungle with the Yekuana Indians. Impressed, Jean discarded Western ideas about how a person should live and raise children, and wrote a book that became a bestseller in many countries around the world, in which she describes how a family interacts with a child in natural conditions. Truly happy children grow up there! “It is not reason that should decide how to communicate with a child, but instinct,” writes Jean. Looking closely at the experience of those with whom we had to be side by side in different life situations, the writer draws the following conclusions: A child under one year old needs to be in his mother’s arms! The baby gains a variety of experiences by constantly being in the arms of a busy person. The mother does not have the opportunity not to do business. The child adopts the experience of the mother's body in hard work! Being in intense, often dangerous conditions! But (!) there is no parental fear and this is the foundation of the child’s future self-confidence. The baby lives in the eternal now. In the arms of his mother, he is infinitely happy. After a year, the child, confident and accustomed to well-being, spends time crawling, exploring the world using the energy received during the manual period. He is happy with everything. He runs to his mother for consolation only as a last resort. A child does not require full attention - he learns about the world! Why can’t you leave a baby? Left even in the crib, especially not for seconds, but for minutes and hours, the child finds himself in sadness and emptiness. From here comes a sad path - the experience of loneliness. Early experience shapes the psychobiological structure of a person. The unconscious will dance from the experience created in infancy. But it doesn’t reason. For an adult, a child left for 15 minutes in a playpen is an everyday matter. And the baby takes on the sad experience of loneliness as his companion. The human organization strives for stability. The adult child will maintain habitual levels of loneliness and/or anxiety. The impetus for what can be the lack of a foundation in the development of a child up to one year - the constant presence of the mother? If the child has not received basic maternal warmth, then in this regard: There are no accidents. There are no random cripples, they are “created” by the unconscious in order to allow the huge need for survival to survive. maternal care. And there is a desire to make oneself fragile in order to support the necessary attitude of the family. We do this ourselves: neuroses and psychoses, dulling of feelings, eliminating unbearable pain. And even death. Don't blame bad luck, lack of ability or competition. The fault of failure is the tendency to maintain a familiar, albeit destructive state - with it a person is comfortable. Who can grow from people deprived of the “manual period”, limited by attention and impressions? Those who cannot accept a partner as ordinary and get along with him. Those who need an “ideal” relationship with a person more important than themselves. Those who hides behind the tinsel of prestige (things, statuses), like behind the hugging arms of a mother. Casanova. Searching for love in a relationship that was not received from the mother. Every sexual possession is a small victory. The acquisition of something missing in life. People going to the burning or the gallows, sacrificing themselves, in the hope of opening the way to the well-deserved, unreceived maternal love. The reason for such martyrdom is just a mother’s violent reaction to children’s bruises... Eternal students - smoothly flowing from one educational institution to another. “School” is like a surrogate for a mother. She is more stable than he himself, she is predictable and safe. Women who did not receive love from their mother and now crave it from their children. Lawbreakers, thieves - with a pathological craving for crime. The child who does not want to live according to the rules of adults and receive all the benefits for free, like from a mother, is alive in them. Those who hate themselves because of the lack of sense of their own in infancy.