Resentment can appear as a reaction to expectations from a partner that were not met. It can also be one of the ways of manipulation in a couple, which destroys trust, mutual understanding, intimacy. In addition to misunderstanding, difficulties in communication, a decrease in sexual desire in a couple may also occur. How often, without voicing our desires, do we think that our partner will figure out what is important and necessary for us? And that’s why it’s important to talk through what’s important to you and negotiate with your partner. This way, you will not have false expectations, and therefore there will be no resentment towards your partner. For example, you open the tap, but there is no water. This fact in itself is neutral and it is the reaction - anger, frustration, that the expectation (to wash your hands) was not met and you need to look for another option, can cause a feeling of dissatisfaction and resentment. In a relationship, we expect our partner to act in a certain way way. And when this does not happen, resentment arises. To prevent this from happening, talk through everything that is important to you. Learn to openly express your desires and expectations to your loved one. Thus, you will not have false expectations, and accordingly there will be no resentment towards your partner. But not all of our desires can be satisfied by a partner. To understand the limits of what is possible for a partner and understand why it is important for you that your partner fulfills your desires to the detriment of his own, answer yourself the following questions: What do I think my partner should do so that I don’t get offended by him? How realistic are my expectations? Is my partner able to match this behavior? How did I get these expectations? Who taught me to manipulate with the help of resentment? Why is it important to react to your partner’s actions in this way? What’s stopping you from talking openly with your partner, asking for what is important to you? In order for grievances not to destroy your relationship, it is important to separate your expectations from your partner’s real capabilities. Having realized that the grievance - this is one of the ways to manage a partner, which leads to a deterioration in relationships, you can already improve the relationship. The first thing you need to do is learn to negotiate with your partner, talk openly about your desires. Second, sometimes compromise and make informed decisions that are interesting and your partner too. Third, allow yourself to trust the person closest to you (partner/spouse) and receive support and understanding from him/her. Why do you need resentment? What's valuable about it? Share in the comments)