Anger, resentment, anger and other negative emotions are a natural reaction to provocations. Only this is precisely the purpose for which, as a rule, they are resorted to - to bring out the emotions of the interlocutor. Provocation is a method of psychological manipulation designed to put the interlocutor in the worst light, make him guilty, stupid, and justify himself, show superiority and impose his point of view. The problem is that most often a person is led into this kind of manipulation, and this is exactly what a provocateur needs. Those who provoke other people simply do not know how to resolve controversial issues differently and do not have critical thinking skills, that is, they generally do not accept opinions that differ from their own. Someone is asserting themselves in this way. How to behave in such situations and not provide the required emotional reaction? Despite the fact that the first recommendation is usually “calm down,” we will consider it later. It is not always possible to instantly “cool down” and start thinking with a “cold” head. Therefore, first of all, it is necessary to separate the emotional component from what the provoking person says. Many people immediately take everything that the provocateur says personally, and this is the main problem. When you realize that a wave of indignation is rising inside you, immediately tell yourself that this is not about you. This way the brain will relax and stop perceiving the appeal as a threat. Now you can calm down - and listen to what they tell you. If you react calmly and politely to provocations, this will most likely put your interlocutor in a stupor. Because the goal is to get you emotional, not to conduct a rational and productive dialogue. If the speaker really speaks to the point (well, maybe the person is ill-mannered, you never know), you can calmly ask either to communicate in a different tone, or say that you will later think about what was said and make a decision. Do not insult the provocateur and do not “stoop” to his level. Let them tell you that you are chickening out, running away, etc. - none of this matters. You are not in kindergarten. Try not to maintain or minimize contact with people prone to provocative behavior. At the first meeting, it can be difficult to navigate, but in the future it is better to stay away from such a person. There are even more “smart people” on the Internet. You can create an empty account with a cute cat in your avatar and feel free to go into battle. Internet provocateurs are also called “trolls.” These too must be avoided. Destroying your nerve cells over a dispute with an Internet provocateur is the last thing. Forewarned is forearmed! Have you encountered such people in life or the virtual world? How did you behave? What other recommendations can you give in such cases? Sign up for a consultation: WhatsApp, Telegram +7 913 380-83-42 Skype: as3808342 Learn to manage your emotions!💪