From the author: It’s not difficult to get what you want from a man. You just need to remember that a man is a living person. And it’s right to ask him.1. To think that men are clairvoyant. We women are subtle creatures, we feel halftones, hints, whiffs of mood. Men are different. In order not to step on a rake in relationships with men, you need to understand that they are structured differently. Of course, there are men with good intuition. But even they are not able to track your mood every second and read your thoughts. There is no need to wait for a man to guess why your mood has deteriorated and blame him for his “callousness”. He's not callous, he's just less sensitive. If you want something, or you don’t like something, just say so. Direct, precise and clear.2. Wrong requests. Do you know how to ask men for what you want? Nothing complicated, would you say? But the request is different. How do you ask? What words do you use? Remember a few simple rules. Never start requests with denial. Incorrect: “Darling, could you help me?” Correct: “Darling, help me, please!” The fact is that denial immediately turns on the refusal mechanism in the mind. And the chances of getting a refusal to a request that begins with “no” are much greater. There should be no aggression in your request. Incorrect: “Is it really so difficult to understand me! I want to go to Spain, have you forgotten how great it was there?” That’s right: “Darling, let’s go to Spain! Do you remember that sunset on the shore?” An attempt to “run over” will lead to dire consequences. Instead of Spain, you will get a scandal and mutual reproaches. Do not manipulate with requests. Incorrect: “If you buy me this ring, I will believe that you love me.” That’s right: “Darling, please buy me this ring, I’ve been dreaming about it for a long time!” and “Tell me you love me, I want to hear it again, you have such a sexy voice when you say it.” Men cannot stand manipulation. After all, manipulation is a signal that a woman puts herself higher, considers herself smarter and cooler. This will immediately put him in a hostile mood. Do not belittle the man in your request. Incorrect: “Are you a moron? What is not clear? Buy multi-colored pasta, not spaghetti!” Correct: “Darling, please buy multi-colored pasta, you will find it on the shelf next to the sunflower oil. If you want, take spaghetti too.” Derogatory words in a conversation with a man are not acceptable. Dot. 3. Thinking that a man is obliged to fulfill your requests. Everything a man does for you, he does out of love for you. Appreciate it. Don't be impudent, don't think that he has to do this because you have a stamp in your passport or because of your beautiful eyes. Every time a man does something for you, thank him. Even if he just washed your plate. Even if he met him from work, and does this every day. Even if he picked up a child from kindergarten. Your “thank you” and “please” are not humiliation, not a bow, this is an ordinary human attitude. Which is so lacking in families, unfortunately. People think that if they live together, then there is “no time for ceremonies.” But statistics prove the opposite. The strongest families are those where people thank each other, where any sign of attention and action is treated warmly. If you want to keep your love, do as you did at the beginning of the relationship. After all, during the candy-bouquet period, would you thank a man for meeting you at the station? So what changed after the wedding? Is he obliged? Where did this idea come from? Remember, if your man pampers you and fulfills your requests, he does this not out of obligation, but out of love. Don't overuse it. And be sure to thank him. It’s not difficult to get what you want from a man. You just need to remember that a man is a living person. Favorite person. And it’s right to ask him. Add me as a friend on FB_LINK and VK to read even more about relationships. With love, Gloria Moore