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From the author: I usually frown at life hacks - “ready-made solutions”, because I understand their low effectiveness compared to individual work, but there is a huge category of people who will never go to a psychologist, but he will be happy to try out an algorithm created and tested by someone, modifying it to suit himself, or at least receiving direction for thought. This article is for them. Each of us has moments in which we feel hopeless. The lack of vision of a path that would bring relief and the desired changes torments us, depriving us of strength and nullifying our mood. To cope with this state of affairs, you need to know one secret that changes your point of view on the situation, and with it the situation itself. The secret is that if the situation seems hopeless to you, then it is not entirely true. In fact, there is a way out, but you DON'T LIKE it. And most often, it happens like this: 1. Exit involves a deterioration in your own quality of life. 2. Going out causes discomfort for other people. 3. There is a way out, but it is impossible to predict its consequences. 4. Quitting requires you to do things you don't think you are capable of or skills you don't have. 5. There is a way out, but you are afraid to lose sight of some other, better way out that has not yet occurred to you. Try to relate your situation to one of the proposed points, and act in accordance with the following recommendations. 1. Exit involves a deterioration in one’s own quality of life. Think about how you can compensate for deterioration in the future and implement your solution, while simultaneously taking steps to compensate for the difficulties that arise. 2. Going out causes discomfort for other people. No one has ever managed to live life without hurting a single person. Each of us faces challenges, and the people around you are no exception. This is how, in difficulties, we grow, become stronger, and therefore happier. Trying to protect your loved ones from all possible troubles, you doom them to a dull hothouse existence. Therefore, leave the right to your loved ones to face discomfort and learn to get out of it. And to do this, ask what kind of help on your part will help them cope with this situation better. 3. There is a way out, but it is impossible to predict its consequences. Believing that you can predict the consequences of any action is optimistic. Life is always full of surprises, and even the most ideal plan can come to fruition in unexpected ways. By hesitating out of fear of the unknown, you doom yourself to vegetating in dull fame. Isn't this the worst option? 4. Quitting requires you to do things you don't think you are capable of or skills you don't have. Deciding to do something you are not good at is not easy. But remember, once upon a time you did not know how to walk, read, talk, drive or cook borscht. Having mastered all this and much more, you have significantly improved the quality of your life. And that means you can handle it again. Think about who can help you learn a new skill, set aside time to practice, and take action. 5. There is a way out, but you are afraid to lose sight of some other, better way out that has not yet occurred to you. When we make one decision, we always miss another. When you get on one bus, you don't choose another. When you buy bread in one store, you don’t go to a second one. By visiting one site, you deprive yourself of receiving information on another. Thousands of times a day you miss other opportunities. But if you stopped because of this, you would never get on the bus, buy bread and learn nothing. Choose the best option available and act confidently. If you don’t like its fruits, you will again give yourself the opportunity to think and adjust your decision. If these tips did not help you or your situation is much more complicated and confusing, come for a psychological consultation, and you will definitely have additional .