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From the author: The article was first published on the website. When in fairytale therapy groups we invite participants to write a fairy tale about themselves, we are met with exclamations of indignation: “What are you talking about! We don’t know how, we’ve never written, and in general we don’t have enough imagination!” And then we suggest taking a pen and paper, and completely relying on your own hand. Yes, yes, it is a hand with a pen that will magically transfer a piece of your inner reality into a fairy tale, and what happens in the end will really surprise you. Often, the original idea is very different from what happened. And when the fairy tale is completed, an avalanche of feelings overwhelms the group members: from excitement and excitement to devastation. And this is not happening by chance: after all, a colossal work of our inner life took place, and our unconscious sent us a metaphorical message. When a fairy tale is written, we very carefully, gently try, together with its author, to analyze the unconscious meaning. After all, by opening the secret door of another fairy-tale world, we become witnesses to the internal situation of a person at the moment. And there is no good or bad here. Here, the main thing is what emotional response to the fairy tale arises in us and what this means for the author himself. And the most charming thing is that next time the fairy tale will be different and about something else. After all, every fairy tale reflects what is relevant in this period of life. Many mothers come to our therapeutic groups who want to learn how to help their children with the help of fairy tales. But before we help others, especially children, it seems to us that we need to test and feel the impact of the fairy tale for ourselves. Feel how deep the experiences are, how painful the feelings are sometimes, how difficult and scary it is to learn something about yourself, and how joyful it is to realize that you are not alone, to learn that there are many options for solving your problems, instead of one or two usual ones, and most of all The main thing is to feel the support and understanding of other people. !! I would like to share a scheme for composing fairy tales, which was proposed by Doris Brett:!!. 1. Think about the problem that is bothering your child. “Tune into the wave” of your child’s feelings and experiences as he tries to cope with this problem. Try to understand how this situation is perceived from a child's point of view.2. Formulate the main idea of ​​the story. What messages do you want to convey to your child? What solutions are you going to offer through the story. These solutions don't have to be too complicated. These decisions may involve learning new practical and social skills, supporting friends and family, learning the truth that time can heal, etc.3. Start your story by introducing a hero or heroine who has similar fears, concerns, anxieties, or conflicts. This will allow your child to identify, identify with the hero or heroine and involve him in the action, making him a participant in the story.4. Mention strengths and positive ways in which the character in the story is similar to your child. Often, when we are too anxious and unsettled by some of our problems, we forget about our strengths, good qualities and talents. It would be a good idea to remind you about them.5. Describe the conflict at the beginning of the story and then move on to its positive resolution.6. When telling a story, be open to your child. Pay attention to when your child is interested in the story and when he is bored. By the expression on his face you will determine his reaction to what he heard.7. If your child comments on the story or asks questions about its content, do not ignore it. Comments and questions often help to look into the child’s thoughts, into his inner world. If you find it difficult to answer these questions, you can redirect them back to the child by asking him: “What do you think about this?” If the child answers, “I don’t know,” you can turn the whole thing into a “guess” game. In such situations, children's guesses will help you understand what they mean.!