How to say the word "NO"??? The ability to say “no” is the first step from an obedient girl to a free and confident girl. This means the ability to reject those demands that seem excessive and poison life. Even your best friend needs to say “no” sometimes! After all, friendship implies mutual concessions, doesn’t it? It is even more necessary to say “no” to a man whose relationship no longer brings you the same joy and emotional excitement. Suzanne managed to leave work on time. Today he and his girlfriends agreed to drink champagne and enjoy a hookah in a cozy restaurant. Friday evening promised to be very pleasant. Even the usual evening traffic jams did not spoil her mood. And suddenly Georgy called and began insistently offering to come visit. It seemed that Suzanne should have been pleased with such attention, if not for one BUT: she had long intended to part with him, but could not bring herself to say so. Fortunately, now she could explain her reluctance to make an appointment by saying that she was uncomfortable talking while driving. But Georgy was persistent and called back 2 hours later, when the champagne had already been poured into glasses, and the topics of conversation between the friends were becoming more and more frank. Suzanne couldn't help but answer the call. She tried to explain something, the conversation on the phone kept dragging on. In the end, George still got the chance to meet Suzanne that night. The friends were perplexed: - Why did you allow him to come? “I just can’t answer no.” Needless to say, the meeting with my friends was ruined? By the way, the subsequent date with George also did not bring joy to Suzanne. So, what helps to say “no”: admit to yourself that this time you want to say “no”; clearly imagine the person and situation in which you will say “no”; explain to yourself the traps in which you can be caught, so you can't say no. These could be looks, gestures, calls for understanding, requests for sympathy, etc.; determine for yourself the rules with which you will protect yourself from these traps. For example: “Even if she looks at me with anger, I will stick to my decision”; or “Even if he hurts me, I will still say “no”; be sure that you will not back down from your “no”; be happy with what you can do after you stop agreeing. Sequence of actions: 1. Make it clear to your interlocutor that you understand the essence of his request (just restate his proposal). 2. Refuse by clearly saying “no.” Believe me, when you speak clearly, you immediately put an end to it, and it is much easier for the person to accept it. It’s easier. By talking about the reasons for the refusal, you thus express your respect for the person. If the reasons for the refusal are personal, you can say, for example, the following phrase: “I say no because there are reasons that are important to me.”3. to the interlocutor that the topic is closed. “Let’s finish this conversation, tell us how it is...” ATTENTION! There are two pitfalls in this technique: When refusing, never make the following mistakes: 1. Do not give too many reasons. there should be only one, then it looks plausible. If your boss asks you to work on a day off, and you say that a distant relative is coming on that day, and besides, your grandmother is sick and cannot be left alone, and you have already planned a meeting with a close friend whose anniversary. Agree, all this together does not sound very convincing. So, we repeat to ourselves that the reason for refusal is one, but convincing.2. Don't give advice. Only if you are persistently asked for advice on what to do in a given situation, can you answer: “I can say what I would do in MY place.” Remember: only those who are convinced of their decision are able to convince others of it. And for those who believe that they do not have the right to refuse, or have convinced themselves in advance that they cannot refuse, this, as a rule, is not!!!