If you don't flirt, you're probably dead inside. Katharine Towne - Do I flirt with interesting men? - my friend repeated my question: - No, of course. What for? I don't need to flirt to attract attention. - Flirt? I don't flirt in real life. – the man born in Soviet times said seriously. “What?” Making eyes? Well, this is not for me, this, you know, men of a different orientation will answer,” the Ukrainian average male mentality, represented by several men over thirty, was offended. A foreigner I knew shrugged his shoulders on Skype: “I don’t know.” Flirting has never interested me... As an amateur survey showed, flirting is not practiced by the active part of the population, is not understood, and is sometimes mistakenly used as a name for vulgarity and promiscuity - some women called the greasy jokes of elderly guys over fifty “dirty flirting.” They persistently proved to me the existence of a danger that awaits a flirting girl - she can be misunderstood and accidentally raped, unable to resist the exciting power of flirting. They looked at me suspiciously when they heard the innocent question “What do you think about flirting?” The respondents suspected a trick and went into imaginary tanks in advance: “I don’t know... I wasn’t involved... I don’t use it... why are you asking?” The reaction of the respondents is completely justified, because in a society where it is formally accepted to treat the mortal body as a source of sin, and unofficially to have sex in a hurry in a room rented for an hour, where hormonal attacks turn off the ability to think, there is no flirting even at the conceptual level - and especially at the level of behavior. It is paradoxical that when meeting a person who really knows how to flirt, most people change the concepts and call him “charming”, “special”, “intriguing”, “charismatic”. Both the romantic female heart and the hardened male will melt like chocolate candies in a hot palm. Flirting is almighty, what can you say?)) Flirting can happen anywhere and suddenly. Sitting in a restaurant in Florida, I was completely absorbed in the contents of the plate. - Girl, it seems to me that you would like to meet an attractive, intelligent and noble man? – a male voice suddenly rang out. The voice belonged to a slender, dark-haired handsome man in a white shirt and black trousers with ironed arrows. “You guessed right,” I don’t answer right away, having examined him from head to toe. “You’re lucky.” He is in front of you. – the man smiled even more openly. Naturally, I invited him to my table - Peter knew how to intrigue. Later, many times he demonstrated the skill of flirting. His lively intellect could change the meaning of any phrase. And then the words took on several meanings, which had to be quickly understood and returned in the same encrypted form. Once at a disco, tired of fast dancing, I said: “I’m hot.” (In English it sounds like I am hot). Peter retorted: - You're right - all the men in this room think the same thing: you're sexy. He was intriguing, he was never boring. He behaved as the charming model Toni Jordan once said: “Many people think that the main thing in flirting is sexuality. But in fact, the main thing in flirting is the ability to surprise, and there is nothing sexier than this.” So, what is real flirting that excites thoughts and emotions? Its history goes back several thousand years, since the time of Cleopatra. To attract attention, the Egyptian queen used all sorts of methods: a seductive voice, special looks, exciting smells. The origin of the word “flirt” is attributed to the French word “fleur,” which means “flower, to bloom.” Let's leave the historical milestones in the development of flirting alone. The astute reader has already guessed that this is art, most often an intellectual game. Expressed in exchanges of attention, hidden compliments. Consists of several parts: game, sincerity, improvisation, intrigue. Also important for flirting are passion, humor, openness, independence of partners, quick reaction and breadth of knowledge. Why.