WHERE IS YOUR ENERGY? The concept of “Psychic energy” was introduced by Freud back in the 20th century and this is not some ephemeral quantity. How often, when assessing your physical or emotional state, do you say: “I don’t have the energy for this”? That is, you can specifically track whether you have it or not. Therefore, I offer a list of those states that “steal” your energy and drive you into an emotional trap👇🏻✔️Deep conviction that I am worse others. Constant internal comparison, remarks to oneself about one’s shortcomings ✔️Inability to tolerate criticism, but at the same time such a person is prone to harsh criticism of other people. Why? If I am worse, and they are better, then you definitely need to find a flaw, devalue it in order to close that pain and be satisfied.✔️ Obsession with what others will say/think? Constant anxiety, the feeling of “looking back”, desire for approval.✔️ Suspicion. The feeling that there is a catch in good thoughts, and if they praise me, they are lying, because they want something from me. Distrust of the world, it is difficult to build close relationships.✔️Control of your actions, words and feelings. You can’t make mistakes, you can’t speak and think badly, it’s tedious to do everything clearly according to plan, then they will approve and accept me.✔️ Hence the fear of expressing true emotions so as not to be rejected. A person looks for support outside (in a husband/wife, in colleagues at work , in friends, in parents, in achievements), there is no value inside of her, just as there is no self-worth.✔️Mistakes and failures knock you out of the usual rhythm of life for a long time and drive you into despondency.✔️If you haven’t coped with something, mental chewing gum and self-flagellation begin . Shame and guilt are constant companions of these states. How does it happen that because of this👆🏻 there is less energy? Many different unlived emotions are layered on top of each other, and this is unpleasant to feel, it distracts from business, family, work, so the so-called mental defenses are turned on, which throw all the energy into suppression these negative emotions. And as a result, if you cannot express yourself and your true feelings, then positive emotions are gradually closed, joy in life becomes less, it is more difficult to enjoy life. And this is fraught with compensation through various types of addictions - sweets, coffee, alcohol , cigarettes, gambling addiction, etc.. Can this be changed? But how? First of all, admit, say to yourself, “Yes, I experience these states,” and from accepting this fact it may become easier. And then you need to search for the reasons. For each person, the reason for these states is individual and expressed differently. To do this, you need a psychologist to whom you can entrust your experiences, he will guide you by the hand and lead you out of the negative into the positive, into rethinking this experience, and will help consolidate the stability of your state, reactions, sensations, thoughts. Do you have anything from this list? How are you coping??