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I have been given a body - what should I do with it, So one and so mine? For the quiet joy of breathing and living Who, tell me, should I thank? I am a gardener, I am also a flower, In the prison of the world I am not alone. My breath has already fallen on the glass of eternity , my warmth. A pattern will be imprinted on it, unrecognizable from recently. Let the dregs of the moment flow down - You can’t cross out the cute pattern. I.E. Mandelstam I wanted to continue the topic of working with the unconscious in the therapy of codependency and addiction. (The previous article was devoted to working with images on the same topic https://www.b17.ru/article/58088/) I thought that the body could serve as such an object of research, because it is unconscious. It is believed that one of the reasons for codependency ( dependency) the separation of mother and child that did not occur at one of the stages of psychological development. As a result, mother and child have a strong physical connection. At this time, the child perceives the mother's body as his own. It’s as if his own body is turned off. Even in the later stages of growing up, the situation does not change. I came up with this metaphor: as if the mother was the head car of an electric train, and the child was the trailer car. All vital energy resides with the mother, because she steers and decides where the train will move. The child is almost “de-energized” and empty... Once a potential client called me and asked if I would take her adult son into therapy? When I asked what was wrong with my son, the woman replied, “Yes, he follows me everywhere.” He has nothing of his own. He lives by my interests... And my son is already 30 years old.... As an adult, such a person tries to build a relationship with a partner on the same principle as with his mother. He does not feel his body and concentrates on his partner, not trusting himself, his feelings and sensations. Then the body begins to remind itself of itself with a “bouquet of diseases” or symptoms. In my opinion, regaining your body is one of the ways out of codependency. Lyudmila Petrushevskaya has a story “Road D.” The main character is in a symbiotic relationship with his mother. He suffers from neurodermatitis, so much so that he cannot take off a long-sleeved shirt and gloves in the summer. After all, the skin is the border of contact with people and the world. The young man had a dream - to go to India and engage in spiritual practices. He can hardly exchange an apartment, rents out his own and leaves. There he engages in spiritual and physical practices. As a result, he is born again and emerges from the merger with his mother, while his skin becomes healthy)). In conclusion, I would like to note that through awareness of the body, feelings and sensations, you can return yourself to yourself)). The simplest things can help to awaken and revitalize your body and its sensitivity MassageMeditationBath, saunaWork with breathingyogaphysical exercises In the book “Problems of the Soul of Our Time,” C. Jung writes: “...the soul cannot mean anything without the body...” “...can thoughts lie, feelings can lie. The only thing that never lies is the body and dreams "... Thus, not only dreams, but also bodily manifestations are a direct path to the unconscious..