From the author: It often happens that men suddenly begin to get carried away with something, leaving their wife to play the role of a sort of “add-on to the kitchen.” Don’t despair! Question: My husband has been studying Kabbalah with Laitman for a couple of years now, but he is so actively involved in it that he doesn’t have enough time for his family. Every day he wakes up at 5 am, watches Kabbalah until 7, then sleeps, watches some videos during the day, goes to classes in the evenings, on weekends too, plus congresses. I don't have the strength to seek his attention. I was looking for some compromises, but he says that spiritual development comes first for him, I don’t mind, but why is it unclear where and with whom to study and for so much time? After all, he is not ready to give up the worldly, and for me to be everything, but not to feel the best at 23 years old, is also difficult... Answer: First of all, I would like to congratulate you that you have chosen such a good spouse who finds the time and energy to engage in spiritual quests, and studies in a Kabbalah group. I know several good people who, like your husband, began their acquaintance with spirituality in Laitman’s group, but thank God they soon found a real occupation, and today they are very worthy, serious people. You write that you are worried about that The fact is that your husband spends too much precious time on these activities, and even the time that he could spend on you doing something around the house. And that you no longer even have the strength to continue to seek his attention. Let me express our sympathy to you and wish that everything will get better for you soon, and that your husband will finally pay attention to the young beautiful wife who is waiting for him at home. And let me give you some useful tips that will help you with this. Your husband is busy with an interesting job, and you only have routine housework responsibilities. Find yourself an interesting hobby too. You can start visiting the pool, or women's fitness groups. This will give you the communication you need so much, and it will simply be beneficial. You may not know this, but men are very curious by nature. And as soon as your husband notices that you have stopped running after him in search of attention, and that you have developed your own interests, that you have turned into a smiling madam with your own busy schedule, then he will certainly turn all his attention to you, and then you as they say, “cards in hand.” Best regards