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From the author: This article discusses some options for the development of events in one of the possible aspects of the child-parent relationship. In dyadic families, if the mother’s entire life is built around the child, the family system is unique. The two are conditionally isolated from the outside world by high, strong walls, and there are no boundaries within the system. It is pointless to build boundaries inside such strong external walls - if you put maximum effort into this, it will only create solitary confinement for each family member. And if for a growing child, striving to separate, who has friends and an outside world with communication, this is somehow solvable - there is a door through which he can get out of solitary confinement, then for the mother this must be simply unbearable. Most often, she makes every effort to prevent separation. The presence of the father does not seem to make the family complete; his role here is often that of an annex, used as needed. The appearance of a grandson or granddaughter sometimes solves this problem. A daughter, escaping from guardianship, gives her own child as a ransom to her own mother, in exchange for freedom. Moreover, the early childhood demand for fusion often becomes unbearable for a woman burdened with maternal control. The “heroic” mother and already grandmother creates a “cuckoo”, against the background of which she looks even more heroic. This scenario is likely when invisible walls were nevertheless built in the initially described dyad by the child, unnoticed by his mother. In fact, the “cuckoo” in At the mercy of her own inner child, psychologically “raped” by her mother throughout childhood, was abandoned long ago. Dissociation from the experiences of this childish part weakens when, with a certain amount of luck, after conditional separation, a stable relationship was built with a partner in whom, to some extent, the “other mother” was found. Usually this coincides with a decrease in the power and influence of the real mother, if only because of age, and with the fact that the child of the third generation has grown up. The relationship between the “cuckoo” and an adult child is easier to build. As a rule, a daughter or son no longer claims to merge, which is so necessary for kids. The interaction does not activate one’s own traumatic experiences to the same extent. It is less likely than before that the child will act out the copied type of suffocating behavior of the “heroic” mother/grandmother, which looked dangerous for the counterdependent pole of the woman. The dependent pole in the relationship can become the main one when, after an attempt to really separate, the “cuckoo” still failed in personal life, or lost support in a partner over time. However, long-term positive experience of partnerships and successful personality realization still seem to soften the manifestations of projections and transfers of one’s own childhood experience of fusion and control onto the mother-child relationship in the new family.