But no way. Here you can put an end to it and end the topic) Strictly speaking, of course you can force someone to go to a psychologist. You can threaten your husband with divorce, take away money from a teenager, or boycott your parents. And the person will give up. But exactly in order to a) improve the relationship (for your sake, I’m ready to go!... if you leave me then...) and b) to prove that he doesn’t need a psychologist. Such a person will sabotage the psychologist’s work in every possible way, close himself off, hold back, and disrupt consultations. Don’t expect that a psychologist will somehow magically see the same problem that your loved ones see and begin to convince you that it needs to be solved. Because a person will tell the story as he sees it, that is, probably without these very problems. And persuasion is not included in the list of tasks of a psychologist at all. And it’s not at all a fact that a psychologist will even agree to consult. Because the request “to change because your wife (mother or friend) wants it” is not constructive, there is nothing to work on. Only those who really want it can change. So don't waste your money and your psychologist's time. It doesn’t work like that. But how do you still motivate your loved one to go to a psychologist? So that a person really wants it himself. But he did not give in to persuasion. Only by personal example, friends, and nothing else. You can tell as much as you want how brightly life will sparkle, but until a person sees with his own eyes the positive effect, for example on you, he is unlikely to believe it. At this point you can ask me: why do you need to go to a psychologist? It's about someone else. And everything is fine with you. So, if you want to remake someone, then no, not really great. At the very least, you are not satisfied with something in your relationship with this person. And if you really believe that another person can really change according to your will (spoiler: no), this indicates a slightly infantile position. It is with these two points that you can work with a psychologist. Then you yourself will not notice how your loved ones will begin to change their attitude towards psychologists. There is one more point why you should always start with yourself. Why should I go to a psychologist if he needs to change? There is one interesting effect in psychology. Our relationship with a loved one is built on the principle of feedback: we react in a certain way to someone’s behavior, words and actions. And then the other person reacts to our reaction. And so on ad infinitum. This means that by learning new behavior, we change the reaction of a loved one. Let me give you an example. Point A: the husband comes home from work tired, and immediately sits down at the computer right from the doorway. Point B: the wife wants communication, tries to get him to talk, and is offended that he does not pay attention to her. Point C: The husband gets irritated, raises his voice, the spouses argue. What we see here: everyone reacts to the actions of the other in a certain HUMAN way. And this is only a small part of communication in this family. And it is logical to assume that one of them may insist on a psychologist for the other. Let's say it's a wife who feels abandoned. But the husband does not agree what to do. And then we remember the principle of feedback and try to teach my wife to react differently. That is, we change point B to: the wife leaves her husband alone with herself for some time, does not insist on communication. And we get point C: the husband, after some time, comes to his senses after a working day and goes to dialogue himself. Or this: the husband is not happy that when he comes home from work, they pull him and don’t allow him to rest, so he immerses himself in the computer so that at least be alone for a bit. Then we change point A: when he comes home from work, he politely asks (with words through his mouth, yes) his wife to give him some time. Point B: she leaves him alone and point C: with renewed vigor he returns to communication with his wife. The examples are of course exaggerated and you often need to try different ways of responding to achieve the desired result. But this doesn’t change the meaning: you can insist that the other person needs to change, or you can try?