I do not know what I want. How do I figure this out? This request may be interpreted as a lack of clarity or personal strength. A person finds it difficult to realize and formulate what he or she might be interested in, where to direct his or her attention and effort, how to begin to hear oneself and enjoy life. And where to get the energy to live fully and freely realize oneself in different areas. For It's useful to take inventory of your current state. To what extent do our aspirations and worldviews help or hinder us from succeeding in life? - What a person has been doing up to the current moment. - Did he really want to succeed or fought and survived. These are two different, often opposing strategies and tactics. If a person fights and survives, most often There are false views that limit a person in the belief that life resources (internal and external) are strictly limited. If they are not taken from someone, then the person will not get it. That there is some kind of force or someone who has the right to regulate a person’s life. And this force is external to man. It can be manifested in the form of relatives, loved ones, friends and acquaintances, social institutions, public morality, rules and dogmas. And when a person gives the right to control his own destiny or desires to another force, he recognizes his own helplessness. The term learned helplessness is characterized by behavioral patterns that are familiar from childhood, when a child learns to predict a negative outcome for his own activities aimed at fulfilling desires, since he does not receive a positive one. response to his own initiative. A person gets used to believing that his desires are impossible to fulfill, the result of his activities is insignificant. This phenomenon of irresponsibility can manifest itself: - in constant doubts, - a low level of personal aspirations, - bad habits, - the belief that these habits are stronger than him, - relationships with codependency. All of these distortions lead to suffering, which becomes a habitual way to express one’s everyday emotions and keeps a person’s energy potential at minimum levels - this is a lack of personal strength. Understanding these negative processes helps to open the vicious circle of distorted perceptions that directly affect lack of awareness one’s own manifested and hidden capabilities and needs. This analysis, carried out independently or accompanied by a specialist, can be the first step leading out of the matrix of suffering, where, at every opportunity for suffering, the process of self-torture will unfold through thoughts supported by emotions and sensations. These emotions in the form of a wide range of different fears, sadness, apathy, unwillingness to live, frustration, misunderstanding of one’s own desires are directly opposite to personal strength. These mental processes are mutually exclusive: pleasure from life, humor, an easy attitude to problems, love of life, the ability to value oneself, one’s dreams, goals and one’s own achievements. The correction method depends on the person’s inclinations and abilities. A precisely selected method of therapy allows you to effectively analyze and change the way you communicate with the outside world, your own perception, significantly expand your horizon of vision of the world, and begin to consider current problems as creative tasks, opportunities - springboards for improving your own life. All this leads to the formation of mutually reinforcing resources that nourish a person’s personal power. According to our experience, with the request indicated at the beginning of the article, the stage of primary analysis and formulation of one’s own desires, supported by clear resources and plans for practical implementation, takes from 3 to 10 sessions.