Parents often perceive their child as three children at the same time. The first child is the one they imagined while waiting for him. This idea can be influenced by those around them, especially loved ones, people, children with whom they sympathize, whom they may have seen in the movies, etc. This is a collective image that forms the internal portrait of the child, and satisfies the important desires and needs of the parents. The second child is the one whom the parents meet after birth. It may differ significantly from the internal image of the child that they created for themselves. He may be the wrong gender, have a different appearance, may not behave exactly as his parents expected, etc. Parents are often not prepared for the fact that each child has his own individual characteristics. It takes patience and time to get used to and get to know each other better. And finally, the third child is the one whom the parents gradually get to know. He has his own individual characteristics, reacts in his own way, depending on his needs and impressions of the world around him. This is a real child, with his own inclinations and abilities, this is the personality that parents have to get to know and who should get to know them. In order to get to know your child better, you need to establish productive interaction with him. In communication between parents and children, the forms of contact depend on many factors, including on the emotional state of parents and children, on the communication situation, etc. But under normal conditions, there are several productive forms of dialogue, which we will briefly consider:1. Always maintain eye contact with your baby, starting in infancy when you try to catch his eye by smiling and copying his facial expressions and sounds.2. Be attentive to the child's needs and interests, and try, as far as possible, to adapt your behavior to this. At the same time, the child understands that you are responding to his desires. This is an important factor for the development of the child’s interest and activity in relation to the world around him. Your joint actions leave a significant imprint on how the child generally perceives the world.3. Talk to your child and comment on everything that happens around him that arouses his interest.4. Give both yourself and the child the opportunity to express what you want to say. For contact to develop, it is necessary that both you and the child have the opportunity to participate in the dialogue. Children can express themselves in different ways, but in any case, interaction in the form of turn-taking is important. 5. Try to copy the child's actions, facial expressions, and respond positively when the child does what you approve and expect from him. This will help develop a positive sense of self in the child, which is closely related to a feeling of acceptance. These are natural aspects of positive contact, parents usually don't think about them. However, once you understand the significance of these simple truths, it will be easier for you to understand how to use them or apply them more often - for better understanding with your child!