From the author: sexologist-psychotherapist, family psychologist. expert on television programs, member of the professional psychotherapeutic league, master of NLP, educational psychologist, specialist in the eastern version of neuroprogramming, specialist in personal well-being and family relationships, trainer, coach, esoteric psychotherapist. The author of more than 500 articles on a variety of problems, which you can see by looking at the *articles* section and, probably, this will already help solve your problem. The author of more than 100 training programs, which you can see by visiting my video channel on YouTube and typing “Afanasyeva Liliya Sometimes girls who find it difficult to build relationships with their other half come to me for an appointment as a sex psychologist. It’s not easy. Usually clients who come to the appointment understand their condition and feel that the reason that the relationship is not working out is in them. And they are already ready to do something about it. Now I had a girl at the appointment. who said that she does not have a great desire for sex, perhaps this is the reason that there is no relationship that satisfies her. I will note that often women start with sex, but then more, we come to the true reasons, and here in the center. the focus is on psychology, not sexology. So, a client from Moscow with a female sexual problem of anorgasmia was due to the fact that men did not take her condition into account. She often gave in and went along with it. In the end, everything ended, and mostly on the initiative of men. It turned out that the girl does not know how to build boundaries, and she has a feeling of some kind of danger emanating from men. She said that she had difficulty assessing and monitoring these boundaries, and the client was unable to assert herself by communicating her wishes. I, as a psychotherapist, sexologist and family psychologist, identified several situations in her past when there were certain difficulties with this. The problematic state lasted since school, from the moment of misunderstanding among classmates. Now we have removed from her the uncertainty and not knowing what to say. She also showed little of herself in sex and did not talk about her desires and needs. Here, as she said: “in the end, the man got his pleasure, but I didn’t.” I, as a psychologist-sexologist, managed to eliminate this difficulty, in return adding self-confidence to my client from Moscow, removing unnecessary tension associated with developing problematic situations in sex. All this naturally contributed to the same sexual problem of anorgasmia. Then came her general reticence. The girl didn’t really understand what exactly she could say to her partner on the topic of sex, she was at a loss. We removed the internal block and made a part that would control her behavior and sexual conversations. Immediately, I, as a sexologist, psychotherapist, and family psychologist, eliminated her anxiety from the upcoming stress, and the realization that there would be no pleasure from sex, like orgasm. Additionally, we added courage to her, so that she would not worry about how she was perceived, and determination, some intrigue and play in response. Indeed, during sex the mind is not a particularly valuable resource. It's good to show more lightness here. This will work to your advantage. Next, we come to the topic: I want to rejoice, and not live and exist. In order for the girl to let go of this condition, I had to eliminate her obsession with the topic of her anorgasmia, increased anxiety, and the fact that she was not in the mood, and the night was becoming a burden. Instead, we came up with an updated image for my client from Moscow, which will now live in her and manifest itself in the version she desires. At the end of our psychotherapeutic session, we outlined a plan for future work on the female sexual problem of anorgasmia, so that in the future the client could forget about it