Have you been looking? No seriously. People often contact me with a request to solve the problem of finding a partner. When I start to find out what steps have been taken, it turns out that there is only one: wait. Perhaps the stars will align and a partner who is sure to be suitable will come across. Then everything will work out on its own. The idea, of course, is good and I will even say that it is not without meaning. After all, accidents happen, right? If you are ready to wait, without deadlines and with the risk that you won’t get it in the end, then why not? Any option has its pros and cons. You decide for yourself what outweighs you. Let's move on. Let's say there are no difficulties with the previous point. There are candidates, but they are all wrong. There is no one. And who is “the one”? Do you have a clear understanding of who you are looking for? If not, then I suggest a technique. Write down in a column, without analysis or analysis, all the wishes for your future partner. What should it be like? By appearance? The nature? Maybe you have your own criteria? Next, draw a table with three equal columns. The first is very important qualities. The second is important. The third is secondary. Divide your list among them. The first category includes those qualities that are important to you. Those. if you take away just one, then you will not consider the person as a future partner candidate. The second list includes those that are important, but if 2-3 of them are removed, taking into account that everything in the first column coincides, then nothing will change. The person will also interest you. In the third column are all wishes from the “I would like” category. The qualities from this section are not so important as to cross out the candidate even if nothing matches here. At this stage, I often hear objections: What am I hiring for? How can you make such a selection? And what about love? Shouldn’t this happen by itself? It can happen by itself, but here the will is given over to chance, as I wrote at the beginning. It's okay, if this or that option doesn't suit you, we are all individual. This means we need to look for something further or modernize what we already have. Let’s return to technology. Re-read the resulting table and criticize it. Is it believable? Do the points contradict each other? Do you think such a person can even exist in reality? Are all the points in place? Set aside. Return to it in a day or two and re-read it again. Now you have an understanding of who you are looking for. Next, you should think about where “the one” might be. Here is your flight of fancy. It is worth understanding that technology is only an aid in structuring your thoughts. She won't decide anything for you. You still have to act, leaving your comfort zone. If you tried, but it still doesn’t work. If there is a feeling of rejection, misunderstanding, or any other thing that bothers you, then perhaps you need to go to a specialist with this issue. Because we are often hindered by erroneous attitudes and beliefs acquired throughout life. We ourselves do not realize how much they can influence our decisions. How do you like the technology? Have you encountered similar difficulties? Let's discuss in the comments :) If the article was useful, I will be glad to leave a “thank you”! You can sign up for a consultation with me. One of the main topics of my work is relationships and everything connected with them. All the best!