In this article I do not consider clinical cases, we will talk about conditions that are, one way or another, familiar to everyone. I also do not claim to be comprehensive and objective of this material. This is a point of view, and I hope it will be useful to you. How to cope with anxiety? One of the most common reasons for seeking psychological help in our time is severe anxiety, constant tension, turning into depression or chronic fatigue. Only ten minutes have passed, and I’m looking at my phone for the tenth time! My thoughts are jumping from one problem to another. I can’t concentrate on anything. I’m trying to build a detailed plan for everything. But instead I go eat, and then again. Or I smoke a lot , or playing computer games, or calling someone on the phone. Or all at once. I scold myself and again begin to fuss without moving. The next 20 years flash before me in my thoughts, with all possible horrors. And I want to do something, take under control...But I can’t control it. What I can do is take up a task again and again and quit. And at the end of the day, fall into despair because nothing has been done again. How exhausting it is! This is what the day of a person experiencing intense anxiety. The state of anxiety is difficult to bear, it is not always recognized and can become a threat in itself, causing the need to fight or flee. Different people cope with this feeling in different ways. An escape from anxiety can be throwing yourself into work, alcohol, overeating , dramatic relationships, games, even illnesses. You can try to take control of as many aspects of life as possible - professional or personal, your own or your loved ones. This is an unequal battle. It's like trying to out-shout yourself. Fatigue gradually accumulates, a feeling of helplessness and depression appears. The anxiety seems to cease to be felt. However, like all other feelings. What is anxiety? Anxiety is our natural reaction to uncertainty. It is a healthy mechanism that warns us that something is wrong, there may be danger. She can be an ally. A certain level of anxiety is always present, and normally, it does not interfere, but rather helps to live and act. Reminds you of caution, motivates you to take deliberate actions. What if a caveman had no anxiety about a dark, unfamiliar cave? In a situation where the anxiety is objective and understandable, for example, the lantern has gone out and you have to go through a dark courtyard, or there is an exam ahead, everything is simple: the situation has been resolved - the anxiety has ended. But it happens that the anxious state is not explained by one clear reason. And it doesn't go away. Or the apparent reason does not correspond to the level of anxiety. A person is constantly in tension, expects something bad, cannot concentrate, cannot be in the present. There is no way out for anxiety. She's exhausting, she doesn't know what she's talking about. Where is the source of danger? What to do? It’s not clear. What to do? If this restless guest has come to us, it’s worth listening to her. If anxiety could speak, she would say that behind it lie... Suppressed feelings. It happens that a whole set of suppressed feelings and affects are felt as anxiety. This comes from the inability to identify and distinguish between your feelings, especially negative ones. Or there are simply too many feelings, and they are difficult to “digest.” Anger, resentment, sadness, pain, disappointment are suppressed or denied, often together with the situation that caused them. And then a person may feel vague anxiety. This is his inner truth trying to declare itself. The real reason, which for some reason does not “pop up”. It happens that anxiety has a reason and a subject, but they are hidden from awareness. Perhaps they are on a deeper level than those that freely come to mind. Deep and complex questions related to the mystery of our existence. There is the concept of existential anxiety, Agst. This is anxiety about the finitude of life, about meaning, which is inherent only to man and is one of the necessary, inevitable conditions of human existence. What can.