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While there is a quarantine in the world, and more and more of the country's population deliberately goes into social isolation, which means we stay at home with our families, children, and ourselves, moving to an online communication format with the rest of the world. This is a reality that we previously only saw in apocalyptic films. And this forced measure to stay at home can actualize all the difficulties that existed in relationships between family members, and which previously could not be resolved - by going to work, traveling, playing sports and other means of social employment. In the current situation, all these difficulties in relationships will worsen, including against the backdrop of external anxiety in the world (virus, dollar exchange rate, closed borders, etc.) Let's take an objective look: The closed space of an apartment, a house The presence of all family members in a common area at the same time Increased load on cooking and cleaning the room The need to organize everyone’s space so that they can work, study, play, relax, etc. Limitation of movement within the space The individual emotional state of each family member The general emotional background within the family The presence of a large amount of forced free time with a limited number of things to do things you can do You can go on and on. But I think the general meaning becomes clear to you, namely: we will have to somehow cope and be together for a fairly long period of time. And if everything is fine in the family, family members know how to negotiate, be moderately autonomous and interested in spending time together, and respecting each other’s boundaries and needs, then this time will be received with enthusiasm and will pass with pleasure. But, if there are hidden conflicts, disagreements, or grievances in the family. Where work is often an escape from solving long-standing problems within the family, then such forced isolation can act as a detonator. And turn into a collective horror, the consequences of which can be comparable to the risk of getting sick. How to prepare and use the time together profitably, or survive peacefully? New situation - new agreements! Hold a family council with all family members. Make a joint decision on how you will live together during this time. This is like actions in an emergency situation (emergency situations). All previous agreements are no longer valid, we are moving to a new operating mode. And if you didn’t have these agreements before, now is the time to start trying to live in a new way. What is important to pay attention to during such discussions: The feasible participation of each family member, to the best of their ability and ability, in the general responsibilities of the home. Dear women (I sincerely worry more about you) - involve more of your children and partners in household chores, the load increases, and you do not have to do it alone! Share responsibilities and responsibilities. Distribute responsibilities by day of the week, or time of day, assign people on duty by day and area of ​​responsibility (cleaning the kitchen, cooking, tidying the rooms, etc.). Time together with your partner - discuss what you have been planning for a long time! Share news that you often don't have time for during the work weeks. Or do something even more interesting :-) Time for children, games, watching together, discussions. And follow this plan. Time for yourself: hobbies, lying in silence, being alone or chatting with friends, etc. Don’t be afraid to express your needs and the importance of meeting them, even now. Even though we are all social creatures, we may still need time (to varying degrees for everyone) to be alone, even at home. Let this time be taken into account in the general family schedule for each family member, and everyone treats it with respect. Follow the agreements reached, both the plans of others and your own. Don’t give up on yours - after all, you care so much about others because you need time to recover, and.