You can only influence what we notice, see the presence of, embrace with our awareness. Likewise, the Heart can begin to open only when our attention stops on it and we observe it every day, and maybe every minute. Has it ever happened to you that they don’t understand you, you say one thing, but they hear you differently , or are they offended by you or offended in response? At every moment when you feel an emotional response to a situation, i.e. when she hooks you with something, I advise you to ask the question: “Why is this hooking me? What hook is in me?” “Am I sincere (sincere) now? With myself, in a relationship with this person?” “What impulse do I have?” in the soul, in the body, when I speak? Does it come from the heart or from something else*? "Such questions lead to an outside view of the situation, to an awareness of the true motives, what lies behind the action and the word. We often do something because we think we should, or that it is right, or so as not to offend someone else, or because we are afraid to reveal our true feelings. We are ready to run away from them or get involved in a fight, instead of talking sincerely, opening up, appearing vulnerable, trusting our feelings to another. Sometimes we are angry with ourselves, but we behave in such a way that a loved one takes it upon themselves and misunderstanding, isolation, and conflict arise. During a conversation on the topic of sincerity, I was attracted by the following phrase: “This is when you speak from the very depths, when you are behind every word you go inside yourself and get him out of there,” and then I came up with a “technique” on how to be sincere in a conversation, in a relationship, in a conflict. It is simple and works on the level that you are open to. So, to be sincere and speak from the heart you need to keep your attention on the heart. Constantly. And before any words come out of your mouth, turn your attention, thoughts, and feelings to your heart. Then it will be easier for the words to be given the correct form and true message at the moment. And when you feel that they want to hurt you, continue to be aware of your heart and then you will understand, you will feel that this person is simply in pain and you also feel his pain, and then you You will be able not to hurt in return, but to understand and accept what is happening here and now. * Often, especially in conflict situations, when we are caught up in something, we are driven by the instinct to defend ourselves, to hit back or to run away (to leave the situation, to silence it). These reactions mainly come from the solar plexus - our center of will and manipulation. Of course, this center is needed, especially in creative use, but not when we communicate with loved ones (or even with a rude saleswoman=).