More and more people in consultations are asking the same question: “How to live on if plans collapsed? No future. I don’t know how to live further.” I think that this question is relevant for many now in the course of recent events. Let's figure this out step by step, put our thoughts in order and look for a foothold.1. The first thing you can do is realize and admit that: “Yes, indeed my plans, the planned future have collapsed and that I will no longer have the way I wanted...”. This is necessary in order to begin to experience the loss, and in the future this will provide opportunities to search for other options for building your future.2. The second step is directly related to our emotions and feelings, and as you understand, we need to give ourselves time to grieve. When any loss occurs (both plans and future), it is important for us to grieve. This is how we experience our painful feelings and emotions, because any loss or loss is about pain, about unpleasant sensations. Many, of course, can avoid this process, devaluing their feelings, but this is not an option and is unlikely to help and in the future it may become a trigger point. From this point of view, it is more correct to understand what emotions and feelings you are experiencing, then speak out your feelings (name them) if there is a need to cry (but this is individual). You need to give yourself time to grieve, this can be any period of 3-7 days, where it is important to live through the loss of your plans. You can also use any techniques that will help you cope with difficult feelings.3. A huge number of people immediately begin to “rush into battle” and begin to plan their future. But it is important to give time to be, to exhale, to stabilize, to accumulate resources and energy, to regroup and understand what opportunities exist and what you can rely on in the current conditions.4. It is important to sort everything out: take into account the current situation, take into account your capabilities (without inflated expectations and demands on yourself). Try to find several different options, based on the fact that there is no good or bad, there is another option.5. Discuss with loved ones or people you trust. Perhaps they will notice other options or be able to adjust the one you offer. Remember that you can ask for help, seek support - this is not about weakness, but about searching for options, about new opportunities. But do not shift the responsibility and solution of issues to others, because no one knows what will be best for you.