The type of reaction to traumatic events is formed in childhood, based on how we react to the trauma that loved ones inflict on us. Emotional, physical and other violence resonates in children's vulnerable subconscious and breaks out even after many years. First type. The “hit” response is usually a hallmark of a narcissist. It is formed when a child grows up in excessive care, praise and endless encouragement. It would seem that you should grow up and be happy, but the child, even without analyzing what is happening, on a subconscious level feels that he is just a parental project, that they do not see him as a living person. As a result, growing up, such a child also strives to control everything that happens around him. For him, defense is the best attack. The second type. The “flight” response. Obsessive-compulsive behavior. It is formed when a child becomes the culprit of all visible and invisible troubles, problems and failures. In childhood, children often compensate for this attitude towards themselves by hyperactivity, get all kinds of injuries and get involved in everything they can get involved in. Growing up, they become workaholics and perfectionists, and enter into relationships with overly powerful people. They smoothly transfer themselves to another family, in which they nevertheless continue to be the culprit of all troubles. They often end up becoming seriously dependent, for example on alcohol. The third type. The “freeze” reaction. The child grows up invisible and feels unwanted in the family. He spends his free time on his own; children's educational institutions are like a prison for him. Anxiety and depression become frequent companions. Time passes, but the desire to be needed by someone no longer appears. Fourth type. The “adjust” reaction. Typical codependency. The child learns to adapt to the parents’ mood and constantly pleases them, especially from an emotional point of view. In adulthood, the question of the emotional state of others is still more important than one’s own emotional state. In life, of course, mixed types of reactions to stress are more common. Did you recognize yourself? What type exactly??