How often do we see that a person’s experience of well-being or ill-being in his life, essentially, does not depend on how many problems he actually has. Many people seem to be “hung with” problems from head to toe, but they are cheerful, energetic and always ready to stand up for themselves before Fate. And others, having encountered even minor difficulties, have already “put their paws down” and obediently take blow after blow, without trying to resist. Some answer the question “How is life?” They answer: “Everything is fine!” Others begin to complain and sigh: “Life is hard now! Everything is bad! It’s not clear what’s happening? Like before...” Indeed, the feeling of happiness or unhappiness is within the person himself. Only we ourselves evaluate this or that event negatively or positively. The event itself is neutral. How can you evaluate a really difficult situation, for example, illness or loss of a loved one? One says this:• “How unfair Fate is to me!”• “Why Am I so sad??"• “Everyone is fine, but everything is bad for me.”• “Nothing good will happen in my life anymore! My life has not been a success!” And the other one meets the blows of Fate with dignity:• “This is terrible. But it’s okay, we’ll survive.”• “What should we do? We still have to live!”• “It’s okay, there will be a holiday on our street!”• “We’ll still fight!” At the end of this article, choose your role in life. Who are you?• The role of the sufferer - everyone feels sorry for you. You often find yourself in the spotlight, talking about the problems that you have to go through.• The role of a fighter - Deep down, you experience your grief. But if you think that this is your problem, you should not shift it onto the shoulders of others. You can cope with it yourself. Only we ourselves draw conclusions about how we should live further. Survive your grief and get up again to live a full life, or sink into this sorrowful abyss and choke in its painful sweetness? Indeed, for many people in suffering there is some mysterious, inexplicable feeling of pleasure.