Not every pause in a relationship can be useful. And, it happens that one of the partners deliberately falls silent, ignores and disappears for manipulative purposes in order to emotionally subjugate the other. Or he simply avoids responsibility in this way. But there are many cases when a pause is a completely reasonable decision. It helps to cool down a little, look at everything that is happening from the outside, highlight priorities and think more rationally. In what cases can a pause in a relationship be an adequate solution? 1) When you realize that you have done a lot for this relationship, but there is no result When you tried different approaches , they were looking for solutions, but there were still no positive results. Maybe they didn’t get through to the person. Maybe he is not so interested in this relationship. That's when you should take a break to recover. And see if the partner will react.2) When negative emotions in a relationship are off the charts and it is not possible to come to an agreement. It happens that during a crisis period people are ready for dialogue, they are ready to change something. But it happens that any communication is based solely on emotions, resentment goes off scale . A lot of negativity has accumulated. Nobody wants to give in. In such cases, it is often simply necessary to step aside a little. 3) A crisis in the life of one of the partners coincided with a crisis in the relationship. There are people who need their loved one to be nearby during such a period. And there are those who want to collect their thoughts, neither someone not to be distracted by. Just find the ground under your feet, and then “settle” relationship issues. 4) If betrayal occurs, and the partners at the same time cannot let go of their friend, but also understand that things will no longer be the same. The most common example is betrayal. And not every spouse, after many years or even decades, is ready to simply let each other go. It takes time to realize whether you can forgive or at least reduce the importance of what happened. It takes time to assess whether a partner is ready to atone for his guilt. Not in every case is it worth going “into the cave of loneliness.” But in order not to ruin the relationship completely, so that in the heat of emotions you do not say something that you will regret, in order to reassess the situation, decide on your feelings for your partner, you can just take a pause. But it is important to remember the rules of such a pause: - This is not a silent departure, but an agreed actions Each of the partners understands that both have taken a break. - Both understand the reasons why the pause was taken. Otherwise, it will turn out that one is offended by one thing. And the other thinks something completely different. As a result, no one is looking for a compromise option. - The rules of interaction for the period of this pause have been determined. How and on what issues people communicate. The approximate duration of this silence. Again, all this is an approximate framework. You decide for yourself when to ignore them and be close again. A pause should not be a wall behind which each partner hides with his grievances. A pause is a tool that will help you come to informed decisions that you are more likely not to regret.Vera Bokareva, psychologist, sexologist, doctor of science.If you need my advice, please contactContacts: WhatsApp / Viber / Telegram: +7 -963-231-37-12 verabo.ru